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Does anyone here choose to stay single?

I feel grateful to be living in a place and time in human history where diversity of sexual, gender, relationship status and style inclinations are supported and allowed to be as they are.

Both of my parents never wanted to get married or have kids, they were forced by societal pressure - and they were terribly unhappy people, terribly bad parents. Everyone suffers when we feel we must suppress our own nature to such an extent that it affects the experience of decades, if not the rest of our life.

For my part I just wish for something like "sex" and "romance" to be detached from "long term living companion", or that more people could see how that is possible. Probably, I'll have better chances of finding a "partner" when I'm long into retirement age and no one around me cares about those things anymore.

I feel uncomfortable associating with dating-related labels because it just feels like they come with the baggage of romantic and sexual orientation / attraction things when if I would ever have a "partner" the most I could offer them is just a roommate who won't bail on them one day, and hugs.
 
I do now. I've been married and divorced twice, and been with a partner that cost me a lot of stress and money. Now here I am in my early 40s, developing many health problems, and realizing that the only time I've accomplished anything for myself is when I was alone. Any other time I've just put myself on the back burner and run myself ragged to take care of a partner. Now my daughter is almost 18, and I'm looking forward to doing some things I've wanted to do, and hopefully I can get myself better so I can do those things.
 
I'm aromantic asexual, and happily single. I do have some unconventional intimate (not sexual) relationships which I can't really class as strictly platonic, but they're not romantic.
 
Self-ownership is refreshingly liberating, once the mind is rid of social conditioning. 28 years old. Never had, nor wanted a girlfriend.

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