Dendrite
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As the title asks, does anybody here have any experiences of or advice about living further away from those who support you with your disability? I'm asking as this is something that could potentially happen for me someday, which I detail further below.
To give a brief overview, I am an autistic adult who lives alone in an apartment, which is an arrangement I am happy with as I'm a pretty quiet person and moreover need a lot of time alone to be happy and deal with the stresses of the outside world. I am employed and have been able to hold down the job I currently do for a while now.
However, I do nonetheless still have support needs that some family members, whom of which live in close proximity to me, provide much assistance with. It's usually in relation to dealing with phone calls or certain meetings (as my comprehension of verbal communication is not always good, not to mention my ability to retain information from longer verbal conversations is often quite impaired), or providing emotional support when I experience episodes or meltdowns, due to my hypersensitivity issues (or my often related trauma/mental health issues). Said family members have helped me a lot with my support needs and it is something I am incredibly thankful to them for.
Something that I have increasingly started to contemplate is whether my disability and the support I require in relation to it would prevent me from ever moving to another area. Without going into specific details, I have long aspired to move away from my hometown (and the surrounding area) at some point in the future, even if it is a number of years from now. This is the result of how bitter and resentful I feel towards the area I live in; I have lived in the area for my entire life and I have struggled to see it as anything other than the cradle of my trauma (as I had an awful childhood, both the inherently abusive school system and some abusive family members made it a complete hell for me). It's also a place that I find to be incredibly boring, with nothing locally that interests me at all; even the few local institutions that have any relevance to my special interests are sadly rather lacking.
My aspiration therefore is to move somewhere else, as I'm terrified of the idea of spending my entire life in this place I have always hated so much. As stated earlier though, doing this would mean I would be further away from the family members who very kindly support me with my disability. My concern is that as I would be away from them, I might not be able to receive sufficient support for my disability. I have wondered if there are any organisations (local to the area I would move to, or more generally/nationally in my country) that could provide this support to me as an autistic adult? I live in the UK, if that is of any help.
Has anyone else here moved away from their hometown or area? Were you able to get the support you needed (if applicable)? Does anyone have any particular advice for this?
Thank you for reading.
To give a brief overview, I am an autistic adult who lives alone in an apartment, which is an arrangement I am happy with as I'm a pretty quiet person and moreover need a lot of time alone to be happy and deal with the stresses of the outside world. I am employed and have been able to hold down the job I currently do for a while now.
However, I do nonetheless still have support needs that some family members, whom of which live in close proximity to me, provide much assistance with. It's usually in relation to dealing with phone calls or certain meetings (as my comprehension of verbal communication is not always good, not to mention my ability to retain information from longer verbal conversations is often quite impaired), or providing emotional support when I experience episodes or meltdowns, due to my hypersensitivity issues (or my often related trauma/mental health issues). Said family members have helped me a lot with my support needs and it is something I am incredibly thankful to them for.
Something that I have increasingly started to contemplate is whether my disability and the support I require in relation to it would prevent me from ever moving to another area. Without going into specific details, I have long aspired to move away from my hometown (and the surrounding area) at some point in the future, even if it is a number of years from now. This is the result of how bitter and resentful I feel towards the area I live in; I have lived in the area for my entire life and I have struggled to see it as anything other than the cradle of my trauma (as I had an awful childhood, both the inherently abusive school system and some abusive family members made it a complete hell for me). It's also a place that I find to be incredibly boring, with nothing locally that interests me at all; even the few local institutions that have any relevance to my special interests are sadly rather lacking.
My aspiration therefore is to move somewhere else, as I'm terrified of the idea of spending my entire life in this place I have always hated so much. As stated earlier though, doing this would mean I would be further away from the family members who very kindly support me with my disability. My concern is that as I would be away from them, I might not be able to receive sufficient support for my disability. I have wondered if there are any organisations (local to the area I would move to, or more generally/nationally in my country) that could provide this support to me as an autistic adult? I live in the UK, if that is of any help.
Has anyone else here moved away from their hometown or area? Were you able to get the support you needed (if applicable)? Does anyone have any particular advice for this?
Thank you for reading.
