Do you find large cities overwhelming?

[Chair]

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[chinaberry]

I live in a small city. It's really a tiny city.
I've been to Paris about 5-7 times and it's the biggest city I've been to I think (bar London? But only once) and it is overwhelming, but not to the point of having breakdowns and things. I trembled and tripped over and went a bit fainty once I got inside but it was okay (this was the last time I was in Paris and the first time I'd gone round it on my own properly).

 

[umbrellabeach]

I don't quite find them overwhelming, but I really hate having to rush through crowded places like them, trying to avoid other people and stay with whoever I'm with (even though it seems as though people are actually trying to separate us), and try to hear them and be heard over all the noise and fuss. It's a real struggle for me, and I get tired and frustrated. I could never live in a big city. Too much noise, too many people. I actually live in a small city and think there's too much noise and too many people here. I often complain, if only in my head, about a lack of privacy.

In this small town, my business is everyone elses - whether I like it or not.

How does it get to be everyone else's business? Do you tell them anything, or do they stalk you or find out some other way themselves?

 

[umbrellabeach]

Well, of course I don't understand. That's why I asked. No, I've never lived in a place like that. I've always lived in cities, but always wanted to live in the country.

 

[Sean2222]

You don't understand. Have you ever lived in a place with 1000 or less people? When you live in a town with that small of a population, the entire population knows everything about you. All people have to do is speak to someone you spoke to and everyone knows everything about you. If people don't know anything about you, they'll make **** up about you and will start gossip in the local bar or cafe. It's how it is in small villages.

My friend and I once joked that you can't even get away with farting around someone in a place of this size and not have people chatter about it days.

That's still on you. You choose what you want and don't want others t know about you. If you are an open book they will know all. I hardly think size of a town holds much meanng in the scheme of things, it's realy how much is actually going on. is there cnstant traffic, lots of work going on? How much noise, etc. I prefer suburbia and not big cities. It's close enough to where you need to be only not right in the whole mess. Where I live wouldn't be construed as either though... And that is the bane of why I have such a hopeless situation because of all th e lack of proper care or opportunity.

 

[RooRoo]

i wouldn't say overwhelming but i dont like places that are to crowded and im usually stand offish to people i dont know and dont want to be near them i use to have a major fear of even talking to people or being touched such as being bumped into or shaking hands. i do like the fact that there are more things to do in a larger city however i was born and raised in a small town and i live in the country just a few minuets outside of town so small is what i know. i lived in a large city for a bout a year then ended up moving back home with my mom. I do however like people and love to be around the ones that will except me for who i am. i like the house i grew up in and my room is my safe place the place i go to get away from it all.

 

[richbebo]

There are definatly pros and cons for both choices, i myself have never lived in a city and i'm quite happy with that. I live in a villiage which is a kind of posh, quiet area where you see the same faces everytime you leave your house and personaly i love it that way, its very predictable and safe. But because theres not much people everyone knows each other and word does infact get around very quick. Also being in a small villiage makes it harder to meet new people (if you want to)and it gets kinda boring most of the time.
Cities i would think are very unpredictable because they home so many different types of people and you never now what kind of person you could run into wether they be a drunk harassing you, someone trying to con you, druggies or worse rappists (people like this in a villiage get zoned onto and found out very quick) and people with ASD are way to trusting towards people so let that be a factor. The perks of living in a city i would think are that its probably hard to NOT make friends because you meet new people everyday and you wont need feel the need to talk to random asociates so much because there are lots of people and you can blend in easier (thank you assasins creed lol). That being said though i still have no desire to live in the city but thats just my opinion.

 

[142857]

I live in Jakarta, which is a huge city - I heard that the UN is rating it the 6th largest city in the world in its updated list. Before I moved back to Jakarta I lived in Bangkok, which is also huge. I spent a couple of months in Manila, similar size, and I've been to NYC a couple of times. I grew up in Sydney, Australia and spent most of my life there, so living in a big city feels normal.

I think that you have more anonymity in a big city, which suits me. My main problem is that I have no sense of direction and I get lost easily. Places like Bangkok, Hong Kong, Singapore and so on are okay as they have good public transport systems. But Jakarta is awful in terms of getting around. But I live in the CBD and I really just stick to the few parts of the city that I know, which makes it easier.