Different characteristics.

[Ovrthkr817]

Hey everyone, I just got off the phone with my friend, and he mentioned how I tend to ramble. I wouldn't really say about anything that interest me, but he'll ask me a question about something and I'll just go on to answer a simple yes or no question. I also interrupt people A LOT.

Also, twice I've wanted to write about something on this forum and I got stuck. I'm easily distracted and cannot concentrate on multiple things at once. I lose my words or I don't know how to word them properly and just give up. Is anyone else like this or is it just me? I do believe that I possibly suffer from dyslexia as well, but I do my best to re read everything I've written to avoid any mistakes.

Lastly, I notice I get overly excited or extremely irritated by little things, and when I get overly excited and tell my sister of what happened, she's bothered and calls them pointless stories. It's now become habit that whenever I tell her anything I say in advance "pointless story". That's when she just stops listening, then I get bothered when she doesn't listen.

I'm sure there are a few other characteristics about me that aren't "normal", I always knew I was a little different compared to most people. I guess now I know why.

Oh yeah, and I talk to myself when I'm alone, A LOT. Most of the time in a british accent. I've read that aspies do talk to themselves, but am I the only one that does it in a foreign accent?

Does anyone else have similar characteristics/symtoms like mine? I'd really love to know.

 

[rolo]

Hi there Ovrthkr817-i meant to say hello and welcome before-i would not worry about how or what you write-I struggle with writing too-especially at the beginning- I now just write-I write as though I am talking and then correct when finished-start off small is my advise until you get the hang of it-everyone has their own style-anyway what you have written is a pretty good start. I too talk to myself often but I live alone so someones got to say something-

I often read aloud and use all sorts of accents-you will be pleasantly surprised at what people do on this site-check out the thread on stimming. I forget who said it but the saying goes "once you have met one aspie you have only met one person with aspergers -this applies equally to other spectrums we are all different although there are some core similarities-by telling your sister beforehand that it is a pointless story, you have inadvertantly given her license not to listen-maybe if you change that it might help!

I too am dyslexic but i get by- I struggle more with reading other peoples stuff and understanding it-i have processing difficulties-also because I write what I am thinking I can come across as a little agressive-if I do not write straight away I lose my thread-I would rather ruffle a few feathers and get my point across than not say anything at all for fear of being misunderstood. lastly many of us are perfectionists and have high expectations of ourselves but I believe that we all have weaknesses and its ok to show them here. I hope to here lots from you.

 

[Ovrthkr817]

Thank you so much for the welcome rolo, I've felt so much less alone since I found this forum. One thing people can quote me on saying is "I hate words". I'm not sure how I've gotten by in school without reading the required books, but I would just skim through the chapters before writing sumaries on them. I tend to avoid reading all together, mainly because I have trouble understanding or because I'm very easily distracted. Reading out loud does help, but even then, I still need to read sentences repeatedly before I understand them. But I much prefer reading over listening, because I am a horrible listener.

The distraction thing is a huge problem for me, even those few paragraphes I wrote earlier surely took me over 30 minutes to write. Thoughts come up in my head and because of my short term memory I MUST look them up right away or I get upset when I forget it. But once I start doing that, something else might intrigue me and I'll go off to that thing. I believe that this is somewhat of a problem because I am so curious.

When I talk to myself, it doesn't matter where I am, but as long as no one is around to hear me I will talk to myself aloud. If people are around, I talk to myself with my mouth closed. I will move my tongue to the words as if I'm talking, but my mouth is closed and no sound comes out.

 

[smith2267]

I talk to myself quite a bit. Not usually with an accent, unless I've been watching a lot of British tv or something.
My concentration ability was pretty normal, now maybe a bit less since I've been on zoloft.

lol yes, I talk to myself with my mouth closed too.

 

[King_Oni]

Hey everyone, I just got off the phone with my friend, and he mentioned how I tend to ramble. I wouldn't really say about anything that interest me, but he'll ask me a question about something and I'll just go on to answer a simple yes or no question. I also interrupt people A LOT.

If I talk to people I do that a lot... on the phone I usually don't have a clue when to speak... that's kinda what comes with Aspergers as well as an ADHD trait. Have you been diagnosed with either?

Also, twice I've wanted to write about something on this forum and I got stuck. I'm easily distracted and cannot concentrate on multiple things at once. I lose my words or I don't know how to word them properly and just give up. Is anyone else like this or is it just me? I do believe that I possibly suffer from dyslexia as well, but I do my best to re read everything I've written to avoid any mistakes.

The worst I have is that I have an idea for a topic in my head, but just don't know how to start it... most topics I start on,on this board, are thought over about a day before, to see where it goes from here.

Lastly, I notice I get overly excited or extremely irritated by little things, and when I get overly excited and tell my sister of what happened, she's bothered and calls them pointless stories. It's now become habit that whenever I tell her anything I say in advance "pointless story". That's when she just stops listening, then I get bothered when she doesn't listen.

Little things... that might be the "eye for detail" that a lot of aspies have. Your sister might not be aware of such things and see them as pointless.

Oh yeah, and I talk to myself when I'm alone, A LOT. Most of the time in a british accent. I've read that aspies do talk to themselves, but am I the only one that does it in a foreign accent?

My native tongue is Dutch (though I speak a local dialect mostly), but I ramble on in English, German and recently I even touch a bit of Italian as well. So yeah, I do that a lot. I don't know why... I even make most notes in English... my notebooks/sketchbooks are full of english comments rather than dutch ones.

I should also add, and it's not really related... even though my girlfriend is dutch as well, we for some silly reason always talk in English if we're chatting or talking. So I guess the entire English thing is a rather big part of me.

 

[Soup]

Hi Ovrthkr817!

Je suis Montrealaise aussi! Bienvenue au forum!

Nice meeting you. I missed your post in the intro thread. While I don't talk out loud to myself, people who hear me speaking in English often assume I'm from somewhere in England. I've always lived in QC. When I was a young child, I was tossed into French immersion so all my classes except English were in French. I had a series of English teachers ALL of whom were from somewhere in the British Isles right up until university. I think that's why my English sounds the way it does.

 

[Cerulean]

Oh man, I would never have thought of this again if you hadn't mentioned the accent.

When I was younger, like 11-12, I had a hamster and had to clean out her cage weekly in the garage by myself. In order to keep myself entertained and distracted from the smell, I would talk to myself with an English or Australian accent, either pretending I was narrating a documentary or nature show, or talking to myself about topics that interested me or practicing conversations. I'd totally forgotten about it until now!

I've mostly stopped talking to myself because it turns out I don't always know when I'm alone and then I just look odd.

 

[rolo]

I usually do Scottish, Welsh, Irish, London , upper class English and various other British dialects as well as Australian and South African -My indian accent is a little suspect as are my Russian, Middle Eastern, West Indian and Chinese-the PC police would have a field day-however i do tend to get a little confused at times. I suspect it sounds like some sort of world summit when I am in full flow-or alternatively just plain bonkers!sadly cerulean I did not stop at twelve I am 47 and still doing it.:rolleyes2:

 

[BlondieSmith]

Heya..

Don't worry :rolleyes2:

You're not the only one. I often find myself repeating or 'rambling' about stuff. It can be embarrassing because people get bored of hearing me go over something twice, but that's just me! As for interrupting, yes I do this a lot. Someone will say something, and I will interrupt with something totally irrelevant. As for the pointless story, would it be worth talking to your sister about? If you feel the need to tell someone about something pointless, perhaps you could write it down or say it into a Dictaphone/voice recorder. Then the satisfaction of telling someone may be fulfilled. I think its common for lots of people, aspies or none aspies to 'chat' with themselves. I do it all the time. If I feel stupid I'll often say "You're a stupid idiot, you could have handled that totally differently".

As for not being 'normal', please don't feel that you're not normal. In fact, tell me how anyone can be normal. Normal is a boring word for a boring meaning. We all have our little quirks and things that make us mad in our own way. You're normal for not being normal

Hope I helped xxx

 

[Ovrthkr817]

I talk to myself quite a bit. Not usually with an accent, unless I've been watching a lot of British tv or something.
My concentration ability was pretty normal, now maybe a bit less since I've been on zoloft.

lol yes, I talk to myself with my mouth closed too.

Thinking about it now, I do tend to watch quite a bit of British television. One of my favorite shows is Misfits, but then again, I've been speaking with the accent before I even heard of the show.

If I talk to people I do that a lot... on the phone I usually don't have a clue when to speak... that's kinda what comes with Aspergers as well as an ADHD trait. Have you been diagnosed with either?

I have not been officially diagnosed with either, but I strongly suspect Aspergers. Finding a psychologist to officially diagnose me is on my to do list.

Little things... that might be the "eye for detail" that a lot of aspies have. Your sister might not be aware of such things and see them as pointless.

Although I do have an eye for detail, that's not what I'm talking about. Seeing as how I have a non existant social life and have no idea how to talk to people, when people notice me, or talk to me, or show some sort of interest in me, I get overly excited. Or when people don't reply me right away, and I feel like they are ignoring me or avoiding me, I get upset. To my sister, this is nothing, to me, it's not.

Hi Ovrthkr817! Je suis Montrealaise aussi! Bienvenue au forum! Nice meeting you. I missed your post in the intro thread. While I don't talk out loud to myself, people who hear me speaking in English often assume I'm from somewhere in England. I've always lived in QC. When I was a young child, I was tossed into French immersion so all my classes except English were in French. I had a series of English teachers ALL of whom were from somewhere in the British Isles right up until university. I think that's why my English sounds the way it does.

Wow, a fellow Montrealer. I never would have never expected to find a Montrealer here. Thank you for the welcome.

Cerulean & Rolo: Not sure when I started using the british accent, but I've always had some sort of fascination with it.

Heya..

Don't worry :rolleyes2:

You're not the only one. I often find myself repeating or 'rambling' about stuff. It can be embarrassing because people get bored of hearing me go over something twice, but that's just me! As for interrupting, yes I do this a lot. Someone will say something, and I will interrupt with something totally irrelevant. As for the pointless story, would it be worth talking to your sister about? If you feel the need to tell someone about something pointless, perhaps you could write it down or say it into a Dictaphone/voice recorder. Then the satisfaction of telling someone may be fulfilled. I think its common for lots of people, aspies or none aspies to 'chat' with themselves. I do it all the time. If I feel stupid I'll often say "You're a stupid idiot, you could have handled that totally differently".

As for not being 'normal', please don't feel that you're not normal. In fact, tell me how anyone can be normal. Normal is a boring word for a boring meaning. We all have our little quirks and things that make us mad in our own way. You're normal for not being normal

Hope I helped xxx

I guess I could try the recorder thing, or maybe even writing it down. I'd just have to try a little harder not to talk about it right away because usually when things happen I need to get it off my chest ASAP.

Thanks everyone for the feedback!!!