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Delayed Reaction/Late at Finding Out Stuff

AuBurney Tuckerson

~GigglesTheAutisticHyena~
I seem to be late to everything. I miss everything that goes on! Everything seems to only go on behind my back! Then when things happen, I have a late reaction! Am I the only one?!
 
No, this is a common autism trait. Sounds like you are pretty bummed out right now. Wanna talk about it?
 
I didn't know people in my family had changed jobs until months after the change, and when something happens that elicits an emotional reaction I feel nothing at first and then feel it sometime later, maybe the next day.

Are those the sorts of things you mean or did I miss the point?
 
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I remember that when I worked at the school, I was always the last one to catch on to anything going on... same at school and uni, partly because I don't pick up on it, also because I was not included in many of the discussions and also because I generally choose not to discuss other people 's personal business (gossip). People tend to keep me at a distance on a superficial level and not discuss things with me.
 
I used to tell co-workers to let me know if they got too busy and needed my help because I knew I wouldn't notice. Funny, how we can pick up on so many things and miss so many other things. My daughters would try to tell me they were pregnant by dropping hints or having their child wear an "I'm the big sister" shirt and eventually they just have to tell me "Read the shirt!".
 
I've always been the last to know anything about anything or anybody. I don't like listening to gossip, so I end up not hearing about anything. My attitude is that I will find out in due time, if I even need to know at all. Two years without touching Facebook - how did I survive?
 
I didn't know people in my family had changed jobs until months after the change, and when something happens that elicits an emotional reaction I feel nothing at first and then feel it sometime later, maybe the next day.

Are those the sorts of things you mean or did I miss the point?
You got it right.
 
I don't find I am bothered by this too much but I am aware that I am slow to pick up on things, and sometimes I can't seem to access the correct emotional response. Once, when yet another friend had decided I was evil and needed to be dumped, she was giving me the cold shoulder but I wasn't taking the hint. Our sons were playing together so we were still coming into social contact. She had a sofa for sale and I expressed interest in buying and she said to me " I don't think I could stand to think of it being in your home." I was flabbergasted. As far as what is going on with social groups or the latest gossip, yeah I am usually unaware of that though at this stage of my life it's quite insignificant.
 

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