Complaining vs Venting

[Questella]

Is this true for anyone else here?

It's everything I try to say or talk about I'm always complaining and whining but if a Nt says the exact same things they're just venting. How is this okay?

Or I'm just trying to "get attention" and upset everybody around me... but then how are nt people just being normal and everybody sympathizes with them with encouraging words, hugs, etc?

Who draws this line? Is there anything that can be done?? I'm hitting the point where I'm just so done with my life and I can't say a word to anybody at all.

 

[e79243]

I feel the same way exactly...if I really tell the whole truth about my life people will tell me I am severely depressed and all I am really doing is just telling facts only about my life

 

[e79243]

sometimes there is no answer when you vent or complain there just is no answer..it is what it is

 

[e79243]

like it is not easy to pay for all we need and not easy to get new jobs just like that and sometimes we just have to do what we are doing now and stay put

 

[On the Inside]

I think it has a lot to do with the perception of how it affects your life. If you vent about something and it appears as if it is really having adverse effects on your life, then vent/complain hinges on whether or not you can or will do something about it. If you just vent and do nothing about the problem, then it becomes a complaint, with all the baggage associated with being a complainer, ie. that you want someone else to do something about it.I

It seems when people are "just venting", they are getting something off their chests, so to speak, not needing help, advice or intervention. They vent and move on. Or others agree, and it starts a bi+£€# fest.

Where the perception gets twisted might have something to do with the venter's position in whatever social group your in at the time. Higher position gets sympathy, lower position gets "quit you complaining".

I'm not complaining, just venting.