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Can’t stop comparing myself to my siblings

Markness

Markness

Wondering Soul
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I’ve been told that I shouldn’t compare myself to my siblings because I am not them and they don’t have autism so their lives differ from mine. However, I can’t stop myself from thinking about what they have and what I don’t. It especially happens to me when they come over with their spouses and their children. I feel like the loser of the family since everyone in it but me has achieved things I’ve wanted but have only had failures to speak of.
 
It's easy to feel that way when comparing yourself to pretty much anybody, because we end up exaggerating their strengths and minimizing our own accomplishments in the process. Oddly, if you were to actually compare the good and the bad together, you'd probably just realize that you're not doing much worse than them at all.

Comparing your self-worth as a person to others achievements is a slippery slope; sometimes it's best to focus on your own strengths and weaknesses and use them both to your advantage if you can!
 
Also, I love my soulmate more than anything in the world, but relationships come with a lot of baggage. Even when everybody has the best of intentions, your ego getting crushed is kind of a regular occurrence, or feeling like you fail in various departments or can't do everything to please them, and it's a series of constant growing pains.

I know this probably doesn't help, but it's important to realize that everything has a bright and sunny side with an equally dark one. If anything ever happens between me and my soulmate, I will absolutely never date again because of everything you have to do to actually build up a decent relationship over the course of years, a decade, etc. I'd rather do anything in the world than put that much work into a relationship for a second time, because it's a grueling, demanding process that nobody likes to talk about.
 
My parents pit me against my sister. They told me I should be more like my sister while they told my sister she should be more like me.

Both me and my sister now see that for the bullcrap that it was.

We both need to go to more metal concerts. That is a more productive use of time than ruminating on crap like this.
 
I am still sometimes very envious of my sister, who makes 6 figures. But she is always grumpy and watching terrible tv to do work that she brings home to. And gets take out food always. And is in more debt than I am. So comparisons only go so far.
 
Markness said:
I’ve been told that I shouldn’t compare myself to my siblings because I am not them and they don’t have autism so their lives differ from mine. However, I can’t stop myself from thinking about what they have and what I don’t. It especially happens to me when they come over with their spouses and their children. I feel like the loser of the family since everyone in it but me has achieved things I’ve wanted but have only had failures to speak of.
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Man I can relate

I compare myself to others all day

One way I’m bettering myself: staying grounded. Also don’t play the game

I am woke. I know too much, I analyze, I overthink

Good and bad but mostly good
 
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