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For me sensory overload can and does cause shutdowns. The last one was simply too many frenetic people in the mall at Christmas a few years back. For me a classic case of sensory overload.
When any of you get overloaded like you are describing, would you be able to tell a person with you "I'm overloaded" so the person could understand what's going on and be able to assist in some way like just sitting with you without speaking or handing you something which would cut out the sensory stuff like headphones?
Not something I want to admit maybe... Pride, fear, or worry over what people might say that might make it worse...
Too me (not trying to speak for others) it's something I maybe feel ashamed of, or guilty over, and only GOD himself knows why I would feel that way... Because I certainly don't know why... except that I might be causing other people to be really uncomfortable...
So I do all I can to hide it, while I scramble for an excuse to get the hell out of whatever I'm doing with me usually starting to shake and sweating... It's wonderful... Everyone should get to enjoy this stuff... : )
Do I want to tell someone? Yes, but do I no... However, a few people that truly know me, and know its not some act, can tell by how I suddenly get extremely quiet and maybe distant. My aunt notices my breathing changes, and she says I start rubbing on my head, and I take my cap off, and loosening anything bugging me... Plus I'm usually looking for a way out of the situation... (which marks a very sudden change) when I may have been having a really good time just a short time ago... : )
I Think @Fridgemagnetman s gone quiet...
I was interested in Chances point about the pressure of that's maybe the effect of the anguish of others in hospital I think this could be part of what our brains can do that NT s can't hence they cultivate empathy, whereas for many of us the feelingsame of others are palpable and present. It's a bit like the way being psychic is often presented on TV fiction. In my experience.
i take headphones and music with me, to drown out the noises, and earplugs. But I had to go to have treatment. Now, hopefully, I won't need to go so often.I cant even grasp how you handle the beeps, and noises, and intense things that go on in a hospital.
However I admire you for that... I get this deep pitted sick feeling just going in... Its not my normal stuff and I never know how to deal with what I'm feeling while I am there... It sounds so stupid but its like I feel the anguish of other people... All I want to do is get the hell out of there because I feel sort of haunted or something... Then I start worrying that I'm going crazy.
Maybe I am and I just don't understand it yet... : )
i take headphones and music with me, to drown out the noises, and earplugs. But I had to go to have treatment. Now, hopefully, I won't need to go so often.
I don't like going there - nobody does, but as I said elsewhere, I can't shut the whole world out all the time, I often have to put up with situations that push me to the edge of, and beyond my comfort zone, the necessities of daily living dicatate that I do this, if I want to live independently, that's what I have to do.
Yes, it is a stressful job, and not one that I'm really suited to, but I'm now trapped into it. I don't think that I manage it that well, really, I have a lot of problems. But at least I work for myself and not for other people... when I worked at a school, I found that far more stressful, and more that I could cope with.Its cool that you can deal with all you have to deal with... Because I see your job as hard even for an NT.
It would seem you are put under lots of stress that not yours to have to deal with... and it's very cool you manage all of it so well.
When any of you get overloaded like you are describing, would you be able to tell a person with you "I'm overloaded" so the person could understand what's going on and be able to assist in some way like just sitting with you without speaking or handing you something which would cut out the sensory stuff like headphones?
If it doesn’t involve speaking Lucy.
If you can watch the body language (not yours, theirs)
Breathing faster and more shallow.
Eyes might be fixed (brain busy using methods to calm self)
Or
Darting - looking around quickly.
Speed of any actions may increase.
Whether it’s walking or hand gestures.
May start to sweat when it’s neither too warm or haven’t excerpted self.
System is loaded with adrenaline.
Replying to questions requires structuring an answer.
- memory may have shut down (fight or flight) retrieving words may be difficult.
If you were to just whip out a set of headphones and hold them up for the person you’re with.
They’ll either take them and be grateful (without speaking at that moment)
Or ignore them and find the nearest exit?
Depending on how far into the zone they are.
You ask some lovely questions![]()
Wow Gracey! What a helpful response. Thank you so much! I now understand why someone would not be able to say "I'm overloaded" so will focus on all those non verbal cues which shouldn't be that hard to ascertain.
I tell my wife as soon as I start getting overloaded that causes shutdown. That's the most common for me and happens at least every other day to some degree.
If I start feeling a meltdown approaching. I tend to self isolate first without telling her. I'll tell her later, but as Chance said there is some shame involved and its too much to admit in the moment.
The anxiety attack I had yesterday was much like a meltdown. It started a cascade of anxiety. I went off by myself and even afterwards, when I explained to my wife I felt ashamed.
For some reason, meltdown, depression and anxiety cause feelings of shame, maybe because I subconsciously see them as weaknesses .