Hollow Horse
Well-Known Member
I am on my way to meet friends at the beach. I go into a local supermarket (they are not one of the major stores) to buy some food and drink.
Noticing a Costa coffee dispenser, I chose a white Americano. Once it had completed, I found there were no stirrers.
There was a queue of customers and three cashiers serving.
"Excuse me, there are no stirrers, how can I stir my coffee?"
The young girl cashier nearest said that under directions from Costa, they were not allowed to hand stirrers out anymore.
That told me that they probably had them and could have provided me one but that is not to say I did not understand the rule.
What I did say was this.
"But that's ridiculous. If you have a device that is only offering 80% of the deal, why don't you close it down?"
I was not saying this loud. I don't think I was rude. I just expressed my feeling.
Overhearing that, a staff member at the other end interjected and said.
" Why are you having a go at our staff! "
To which the girl cashier added.
" Just pay up and leave"
Later in the day at the village post office where they know me, one said "She said WHAT?" They also think that I should report it to a support worker and make a formal complaint, because of what followed.
I explained to this man that I had autism and that I found this situation challenging and stressful owing to his aggressive tone. On that information...
"Where's your carer?" he snapped.
Anyone who knows the current economics of adult social care would understand that cutbacks have left us really short of hours. I used to have two hours a day seven days a week. Also people like this may not know that we have to pay independently from our benefits
In any case did he really imagine, unless the condition was severe, that everyone , say, with Aspergers have full time carers
He then went on to declare that he used to work with autistic children and so knew about these things.
Later on I thought that even if that was true, it might explain why he now worked in a lo-fi supermarket.
What could they have done better?
They might have been pleasant and welcoming instead of arrogant and aggressive.
They might have offered me anything, like a pencil or pen, just to stir the sugar through.
I'd like feedback on whether others feel I have been badly treated because I'm not sure whether to complain to the store or not.
It's a situation that could happen to anyone, of course, but here the autism aspect is relevant because the staff showed total indifference and overall were downright rude. I hope they don't treat all their customers as dismissively.
Noticing a Costa coffee dispenser, I chose a white Americano. Once it had completed, I found there were no stirrers.
There was a queue of customers and three cashiers serving.
"Excuse me, there are no stirrers, how can I stir my coffee?"
The young girl cashier nearest said that under directions from Costa, they were not allowed to hand stirrers out anymore.
That told me that they probably had them and could have provided me one but that is not to say I did not understand the rule.
What I did say was this.
"But that's ridiculous. If you have a device that is only offering 80% of the deal, why don't you close it down?"
I was not saying this loud. I don't think I was rude. I just expressed my feeling.
Overhearing that, a staff member at the other end interjected and said.
" Why are you having a go at our staff! "
To which the girl cashier added.
" Just pay up and leave"
Later in the day at the village post office where they know me, one said "She said WHAT?" They also think that I should report it to a support worker and make a formal complaint, because of what followed.
I explained to this man that I had autism and that I found this situation challenging and stressful owing to his aggressive tone. On that information...
"Where's your carer?" he snapped.
Anyone who knows the current economics of adult social care would understand that cutbacks have left us really short of hours. I used to have two hours a day seven days a week. Also people like this may not know that we have to pay independently from our benefits
In any case did he really imagine, unless the condition was severe, that everyone , say, with Aspergers have full time carers
He then went on to declare that he used to work with autistic children and so knew about these things.
Later on I thought that even if that was true, it might explain why he now worked in a lo-fi supermarket.
What could they have done better?
They might have been pleasant and welcoming instead of arrogant and aggressive.
They might have offered me anything, like a pencil or pen, just to stir the sugar through.
I'd like feedback on whether others feel I have been badly treated because I'm not sure whether to complain to the store or not.
It's a situation that could happen to anyone, of course, but here the autism aspect is relevant because the staff showed total indifference and overall were downright rude. I hope they don't treat all their customers as dismissively.