Booze Zombie
Well-Known Member
I'm a 23 year old male from the UK, I have Asperger's Syndrome. My difficulties with the syndrome confuse me, as they sometimes appear to be opposite to what most others suffer with the condition. I love being social, I love talking to people, making people laugh, smile, I want to be interesting and funny... my issues manifest themselves as acute and crippling paranoia attacks, that slowly build momentum until I've torn a relationship apart, as well as the occasional sensory overload and getting lost in my thoughts, as well as a general fear of people and their intentions. Anxiety, I suppose it might otherwise be termed.
My problems often seem to manifest when encountering new groups of people, in the form of continuous, almost unending questioning of if the other people like me. "Does he/she like me? I picked up this vibe, that vibe, they said this, do they mean this?" and it follows a typical pattern of either I'll let go of it or I'll burn through the relationship and the person will seemingly becoming exasperated with my unprovoked paranoia, as they see it. I've actually ended up with paranoia about people leaving me because I'm paranoid, due to my belief that being paranoid makes you annoying to interact with.
The worst place this manifests itself in... is romantic relationships or rather, my attempts at them. I seemingly overwhelm people with my emotions, showering them in affection and attention until I become something of a bore, it would seem. I'm not sure if this is reality or if it's just how I take their utter frustration with attempting to love me. The paranoia then carries with it a mood swing element in the context of romantic relationships, making me very unpredictable and aggressive.
I'm not sure if my experience is usual or even "the norm" for our "not norm" but can anyone advise me on the best way to escape this horrible cycle of paranoia, anxiety and explosive emotion? I would honestly appreciate it to no end.
My problems often seem to manifest when encountering new groups of people, in the form of continuous, almost unending questioning of if the other people like me. "Does he/she like me? I picked up this vibe, that vibe, they said this, do they mean this?" and it follows a typical pattern of either I'll let go of it or I'll burn through the relationship and the person will seemingly becoming exasperated with my unprovoked paranoia, as they see it. I've actually ended up with paranoia about people leaving me because I'm paranoid, due to my belief that being paranoid makes you annoying to interact with.
The worst place this manifests itself in... is romantic relationships or rather, my attempts at them. I seemingly overwhelm people with my emotions, showering them in affection and attention until I become something of a bore, it would seem. I'm not sure if this is reality or if it's just how I take their utter frustration with attempting to love me. The paranoia then carries with it a mood swing element in the context of romantic relationships, making me very unpredictable and aggressive.
I'm not sure if my experience is usual or even "the norm" for our "not norm" but can anyone advise me on the best way to escape this horrible cycle of paranoia, anxiety and explosive emotion? I would honestly appreciate it to no end.