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Any non-diagnosed ppl glad they aren't?

Ames

Ames

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When I stumbled onto a list of female Asperger's traits about a month ago, it was a revelation. It gave my entire life context; everything now made sense, *I* made sense. Since then, I have tried to track down some kind of help. The one and only health insurance company in the state has partnered with a hospital and will only cover doctors affiliated with that hospital "in network" (won't cover any doctors out-of-network). That hospital's behavioural health clinic isn't accepting any new patients. (So I have no access to psychiatrists, psychologists, or counselors starting in 2018.) No one around here knows of anyone who evaluates, treats, or deals with adults on the spectrum. I found out that the counselor with whom I have an appointment tomorrow will not be covered by my insurance next year; I kept the appointment because I felt guilty if I cancelled. The psychiatrist managing my meds offered no help or advice for dx; he will also no longer be covered for next year.

More than anything, I want to be independent. I have been unable to work for 8 years. I thought with the right kind of support I could become self-sufficient, but I can't even manage to navigate the medical system, let alone a real life. I guess I'm just giving up. Maybe a diagnosis wouldn't help or change anything, anyway.

Anyone out there who is undiagnosed and glad they don't have a diagnosis? (Not talking to fully independent, employed, people who aren't struggling.) Has anyone found having the diagnosis worse than not having it?
 
At my age and status it really doesn't seem to matter. I'm not seeking any kind of entitlement other than those based on my age at formal retirement, and the few people in my social orbit already know.

Though I've posted many times in this forum the importance of maintaining a "need-to-know" basis regarding their autism. Otherwise one may well be throwing "chance to the wind" whether informing your coworkers or you perceived best friends, let alone family members you've known all your life.
 
I'm the opposite, I was diagnosed just over 18 years ago in October 1999 at the age of 23, in some ways it answered a lot of the questions I and others have been asking all my life, but in other ways I wish I was NT and not disabled in other ways, then I'd be able to get a job.
 
It's been good and bad. The good is mostly a personal thing; I understand a bit better why I am the way I am. As far as other people, therapy, ect. it's been nearly useless. Not a lot of understanding out there.
 
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