Any advice on meeting new people and forming relationships?

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Hello everyone, I just wanted to say first that I am not on the spectrum but I have a friend who is, and I want to help him meet new people in real life and form relationships, which is also something that he wants to do.

He wants to meet people who have similar interests and Asperger's as well and lives in a rural area where the only place to meet new people is through a bar. An environment he isn't exactly comfortable in.

He doesn't have much of a support group unfortunately, and his parents aren't available to provide him much emotional support. He only has a Psychologist who is on vacation as of now, so I advised him to ask his Psychologist for advice and maybe find support groups in real life which he can join and meet people with Aspergers in real life.

He doesn't really have anyone else that he can depend on, he told me, except for his Psychologist. But he wants to meet people. He's a kind and friendly person, and I want him to make connections.

He doesn't know how to really use forums that well either, so he asked me to become a proxy on his behalf.

Any advice/tips are appreciated as well as your own experiences. Thank you!

 

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"....the only place to meet new people is through a bar."

There are no churches?
No libraries?
No adult education classes?

"He wants to meet people who have similar interests..."
What are his interests?

"He doesn't know how to really use forums that well either..."

Maybe he could take a library class on how to use
the internet. I live in a very rural area and the local library
offers classes like that.

 

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"....the only place to meet new people is through a bar."

There are no churches?
No libraries?
No adult education classes?

"He wants to meet people who have similar interests..."
What are his interests?

"He doesn't know how to really use forums that well either..."

Maybe he could take a library class on how to use
the internet. I live in a very rural area and the local library
offers classes like that.

He has Asperger's and I don't think he's exactly comfortable with those places yet but i'll try recommending them to him. He understands the purposes of forums but he says he doesn't understand the logic behind replying to things people have said a long time ago.

Basically i'm thinking more of an in real life support group. Thanks for the help though will try and ask him about it.

 

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How long ago is "....a long time ago"?
Weeks?
Months?
Hours?
Minutes?

Many people see no logic in that.
That is not a particularly ASD specific characteristic.
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If he wants an IRL support group, probably his therapist
can recommend possibilities.

 

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A long time ago just means an indefinite time ago because it's a variable that changes. But thanks for all the help, I agree with what you're saying and you've given me bunch of insight so thanks.