Am I too much of an aspie for an aspie forum?

[Vanadium50]

As someone with Asperger Syndrome I don't fit in anywhere. And, apparently I don't fit into this forum either. Here is a simple proof: go to any member's profile and look their number of posts and the total number of likes they received. Almost everyone has a lot more likes than posts EXCEPT FOR ME: I have more posts than likes. In other words others have 3 or 4 likes per post, while I have only 0.2 likes per posts.

Apart from that, if you go to the following post, https://www.aspiescentral.com/threads/getting-women-to-approach-me.16590/page-6#post-326086 you will see how I simply asked for a little bit of help, but got a lot of backlash in return. And it gets worse: if you go to this post, https://www.aspiescentral.com/threads/nice-guys-patriarchy-and-feminism.16890/page-3#post-326367 you will see how ChurchTheArtist had "declared me unteachable" (HIS words, not mine) and apparently he DOES have an authority to make such declaration, as evident from the fact that my thread got closed shortly thereafter JUST LIKE HE ASKED. And on what basis did he declare me unteachable? All because when he asked me a question as to why the kid likes his dog I gave him a "wrong" answer! In other words I failed his Asperger test, and he declared me too much of an aspie for an aspie forum (hence the title of this post). And oh yes, he knows that what I am talking about IS Asperger -- in my private correspondence with him few weeks prior to that post he DID talk to me about very similar things in Asperger terms (he used the label too not just me). So since he agrees that what I do is due to Asperger, why does he go and declare me unteachable?! Is he saying this forum is only for mild aspies and I am too severely affected to participate?!

And before you go and tell me its just one person, let me remind you one more time:

1) I am the ONLY person here that has more posts than likes
2) Other people attacked me too, as you can see from those posts
3) When he declared me unteachable, the mods obliged and closed the thread, just like he asked

So what do you think?!

 

[StephF]

I can try and give you an answer purely based on my perspective. From the posts I have read from you , you SEEMED to come across as entitled or rude. The way you put yourself across instantly made me want to walk away.

I'm not saying you are that way but that is what I have inferred. I don't think you realise how you are coming across.
If other people felt that way too then maybe that might suggest an answer ?

 

[Vanadium50]

I can try and give you an answer purely based on my perspective. From the posts I have read from you , you SEEMED to come across as entitled or rude. The way you put yourself across instantly made me want to walk away.

I'm not saying you are that way but that is what I have inferred. I don't think you realise how you are coming across.
If other people felt that way too then maybe that might suggest an answer ?

As you have stated yourself, you don't know whether I am that way, that is only that I COME ACROSS that way. Well COMING ACROSS differently from what I am is the very definition of Asperger, isn't it. Which brings back to the original question: why am I treated worse than others on this forum despite the fact that they, too, have Asperger?

 

[Catlover614]

Sometimes I think i'm too much of an aspie for this website because everyone else here is way more opinionated and knowledgeable regarding autism than I am. I'm still getting acquainted with my aspergers syndrome. I hate Facebook due to the vanity of it...look at me, look at me...selfie, selfie, selfie...in other words, it's a selfish network. That's why I came to AC,but I don't get many "agrees" here so I must be the oddest person on the spectrum. I love reading everyone's responses although I don't always have an opinion of my own to share. My own fault for being so factual and a bore....yawn, lol.

 

[Vanadium50]

Sometimes I think i'm too much of an aspie for this website because everyone else here is way more opinionated and knowledgeable regarding autism than I am. I'm still getting acquainted with my aspergers syndrome. I hate Facebook due to the vanity of it...look at me, look at me...selfie, selfie, selfie...in other words, it's a selfish network. That's why I came to AC,but I don't get many "agrees" here so I must be the oddest person on the spectrum. I love reading everyone's responses although I don't always have an opinion of my own to share. My own fault for being so factual and a bore....yawn, lol.

Well you too have more likes than posts -- in contrast to me. So I am doing a lot worse than you.

And, speaking of facebook, if, as you said, EVERYONE on facebook are selfish, how come THEIR facebook posts get likes but mine don't? So what is it about my version of selfishness that makes it so much worse than other people's selfishness?

 

[Catlover614]

I did NOT say EVERYONE on Facebook is selfish. I said FACEBOOK is a selfish network meaning that noone cares about you or tries to help you and support you. On AC, however, people DO offer support and kindness. I think everyone has some selfishness to some degree, MYSELF INCLUDED. I am just saying that it's not always about the "likes" as much as it is about helping others who are dealing with the same things you are...without judgment.

 

[Warmheart]

No baiting, trolling, flaming. This thread is done.