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Accidentally saying random things

RemyZee

RemyZee

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Do you say things or make comments you later realize have nothing to do with what's actually happening in a conversation online or in person--even though it makes sense to you? I've been looking at old posts of mine, realizing that regularly I post in response to what someone has said, not realizing it doesn't make any sense at all...except to me. Is that an autistic thing?Embarrassing.
 
I notice people doing this here, and I never noticed NT people do this, so I guess it is an autistic trait.
 
RemyZee said:
Do you say things or make comments you later realize have nothing to do with what's actually happening in a conversation online or in person--even though it makes sense to you? I've been looking at old posts of mine, realizing that regularly I post in response to what someone has said, not realizing it doesn't make any sense at all...except to me. Is that an autistic thing?Embarrassing.
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I’m definitely guilty of this, yes. Usually it’s called out when it happens IRL and that’s even more embarrassing.
 
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RemyZee said:
Do you say things or make comments you later realize have nothing to do with what's actually happening in a conversation online or in person--even though it makes sense to you? I've been looking at old posts of mine, realizing that regularly I post in response to what someone has said, not realizing it doesn't make any sense at all...except to me. Is that an autistic thing?Embarrassing.
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The short answer. Yes.

1. By our very nature, and this has been scientifically tested, a neurodivergent mind has the ability, and often will come up with "out-of-the-box" thoughts, questions, and answers that neurotypicals probably won't. We make connections that others often do not. Yes, it can be socially awkward, sometimes embarrassing, sometimes triggering eye rolls, sighs, confused looks, and even disrespectedly disregarded. However, every once in a while, and I have had this experience more times than I can count, I was right. Things that would take a group of very intelligent people to finally, after months, or even years to discover, I would look at them and think, "You ignored me, didn't listen, wouldn't believe me, etc. after I told you a long, long time ago. Now I am right, but sure, you go right ahead and take the credit." (sarcasm)

2. We also can have more difficulties with context and perspective. Sometimes a person may be describing a situation they are concerned about, but then you chime in with something similar, but not related in terms of context or perspective. We make those "connections", but it might not be with the correct focus.
 
I do find that I will completely misinterpret a conversation. Or completely misinterpret something said. Alot of times, I find it's a lack of context. Things that people are aware of that I am not aware of, or don't care to have awareness for.

Though I do still struggle to ask questions and ask to clarify, in situations where I do not understand something. Thus panicking and overloading over the idea that I don't get it.
 
Oh! As a never diagnosed older woman I have a lot of feelings of being an imposter when I identify as autistic. But when posts like this come up, I KNOW I am autistic. Whew! :)
 
Well yes, l roll out things that may be random, but to me makes perfect sense, because l have some unknown schematic that my brain bounces along on and usually it's logic based, or veers out on a emotional tangent.
 
Neonatal RRT said:
The short answer. Yes.

1. By our very nature, and this has been scientifically tested, a neurodivergent mind has the ability, and often will come up with "out-of-the-box" thoughts, questions, and answers that neurotypicals probably won't. We make connections that others often do not. Yes, it can be socially awkward, sometimes embarrassing, sometimes triggering eye rolls, sighs, confused looks, and even disrespectedly disregarded. However, every once in a while, and I have had this experience more times than I can count, I was right. Things that would take a group of very intelligent people to finally, after months, or even years to discover, I would look at them and think, "You ignored me, didn't listen, wouldn't believe me, etc. after I told you a long, long time ago. Now I am right, but sure, you go right ahead and take the credit." (sarcasm)

2. We also can have more difficulties with context and perspective. Sometimes a person may be describing a situation they are concerned about, but then you chime in with something similar, but not related in terms of context or perspective. We make those "connections", but it might not be with the correct focus.
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I think the words "pregnant pause" applies: when something comes out of the mouth and everyone just kind of stares.
 
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