(30M) I'm relatively ugly and I'd like some advice

[Fabrice1]

Good evening, (photo of me) as you can see I'm ugly, and I need to know how I can work on my self-confidence to compensate and think less about my bad appearance, what is the best remedy?

 

[velociraptor]

I've got some news for you. You're actually quite attractive. Seriously. Former professional portrait photographer here. I'd have no issue with your face or bod in my portfolio. Your concerns about your appearance are in your head, they're not reflected by the reality of what I'm seeing here.

I'm not exactly blessed with copious amounts of social grace, so I can assure you that if your face really did look something like the back end of a bovine, I would have said something to that effect.

Hope this helps.

 

[tree]

@Fabrice1
What gives you the idea that you are ugly?

Is it entirely your own idea?
Or have people said things to you?

 

[Fabrice1]

What gives you the idea that you are ugly?

Is it entirely your own idea?
Or have people said things to you?

Other men on the looksmaxing forum told me I was doomed because I didn't fit the standards and said I should get surgery because my nose and lips were too big, according to them

 

[Jumpinbare]

They are being foolishly arbitrary about that. Balanced people like what they like - not what some website tells them they should like.

 

[Crossbreed]

Every look has its fan base.

Remember: your ancestor --who looked like you-- got a date.

 

[Trophonius]

You don't look ugly tbh.

 

[Azeth]

Welcome, @Fabrice1

You are a perfectly good looking guy. I can't imagine anyone not finding you attractive.

Other men on the looksmaxing forum told me I was doomed because I didn't fit the standards and said I should get surgery because my nose and lips were too big, according to them

Truthfully. I'd disregard people like that. Infact. I'd avoid vanity-based forums like that. Places like that serve to ego boost already insecure people, who opt to narcissism. Not a healthy environment by any means. Especially when it comes to already suffering self-esteem.

The only opinion that truly matters, is your own.

 

[velociraptor]

men on the looksmaxing forum

Yeah, these are guys who smack themselves in the face with a hammer for hours each day thinking it somehow makes them more attractive. You can ignore what they say. I'd be thrilled to have your looks. Wanna trade for a 57-year-old dad bod and some thinning hair? It's yours if you say the word.

 

[Jonn]

Good evening, (photo of me) as you can see I'm ugly, and I need to know how I can work on my self-confidence to compensate and think less about my bad appearance, what is the best remedy?

One of the most unique introductions I have ever come across.

 

[velociraptor]

my nose and lips were too big

Can I also just say that sounds racist AF? Disgusting comments.

You look FINE, sir.

 

[arithmetic]

I don't think it matter much about physical appearance (although I'm told my own body is nice). I've noticed that people respond much better to me when I'm kind and loving.

Edit: you are NOT ugly

We people see the thoughts in one another's eyes all the time - although we only understand that every once in a while, when we see in our friend's eyes just what they are thinking about. Yet even when we're walking down the street and encountering one another for a tiny moment we do see what kind of things occupy each other's minds.

Meditation is a useful technique which can be used to change a person's thinking. It's like getting a big, massive ball rolling - every day you add a little bit of energy to the desirable thinking and every day the ball moves a little more strongly.
I like the metta bhavana meditation which was taught me at a Buddhist school. Metta bhavana translates from the Sanskrit as "becoming love". Whoever practices this meditation will become a more loving and attractive person.

PS: You'll still be an aspie, but a very beautiful aspie

 

[arithmetic]

@Fabrice1
What gives you the idea that you are ugly?

Is it entirely your own idea?
Or have people said things to you?

yeh somebody was nasty