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The Unwritten Rules of Social Relationships 2014-05-07

Decoding Social Mysteries Through the Unique Perspectives of Autism

  1. Brent
    Author:
    Temple Grandin, Sean Barron
    Book Type:
    • Paperback
    • Hardcover
    • Digital
    Born with autism, both authors now famously live successful social lives. But their paths were very different. Temple's logical mind controlled her social behavior. She interacted with many adults and other children, experiencing varied social situations. Logic informed her decision to obey social rules and avoid unpleasant consequences. Sean's emotions controlled his social behavior. Baffled by social rules, isolated and friendless, he made up his own, and applied them to others. When they inevitably broke his rules, he felt worthless and unloved. Both Temple and Sean ultimately came to terms with the social world and found their places in it. Whether you are a person with autism, a caregiver in the autism community, or just someone interested in an "outsider" view of society, their powerful stories will enthrall and enlighten you.

    Helpful sections include:
    • Two Perspectives on Social Thinking
    • Two Minds: Two Paths
    • The Ten Unwritten Rules of Social Relationships, which include:
      • Rule #1: Rules are Not Absolute. They are Situation-based and People-based
      • Rule #2: Not Everything is Equally Important in the Grand Scheme of Things
      • Rule #3: Everyone in the World Makes Mistakes. It Doesn’t Have to Ruin Your Day.
      • Rule #4: Honesty is Different than Diplomacy
      • Rule #5: Being Polite is Appropriate in Any Situation
      • Rule #6: Not Everyone Who is Nice to Me is My Friend
      • Rule #7: People Act Differently in Public than They Do in Private
      • Rule #8: Know When You’re Turning People Off
      • Rule #9: “Fitting In” is Often Tied to Looking and Sounding Like You Fit In
      • Rule # 10: People are Responsible for Their Own Behaviors

Recent Reviews

  1. Aspergirl4hire
    Aspergirl4hire
    5/5,
    Version: 2014-05-07
    Five star: the author knows the topic from the inside, articulates clearly and concisely, and provides summary examples that help distinguish inability to process what's going on from lookalike conditions, such as oppositional defiance. Ie, it is possible to be a jerk, separately and distinctly from being an aspie. Grandin will tell you how in "Act Three."
  2. Ylva
    Ylva
    4/5,
    Version: 2014-05-07
    That's exactly ten rules. Why call it "include"?
  3. cairnsbird
    cairnsbird
    4/5,
    Version: 2014-05-07
    The answers to my social problems.