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Tony Ramirez

Tony Ramirez

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Single Aspie RSD Useless Hated Loser 48 From Brooklyn, NY
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  • Tony Ramirez
    Women can do whatever they want to men even emotionally break them but if a man even shows his emotions he is a weirdo ignored even arrested. If a women cries or even looks gloomy everyone is by her side.
    Tony Ramirez
    I lost interest in volunteering and gardening. I am not welcomed in either space.
    FayetheADHDsquirrel
    FayetheADHDsquirrel
    I'm sorry to hear that. Is there anything that you still enjoy even when you don't have anyone to do it with?
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Nothing really the word is Anhedonia
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    Matthias
    You're not welcomed because of your behavior (cursing at a women for not offering to help when you were struggling). Instead of blaming others and feeling rejected, why not think about what you could have done differently? For example, could you have taken a break or asked for help instead of expecting others to notice your distress and rush over to help you?
    Tony Ramirez
    I got kicked out of the Prospect Park volunteer alliance. Got a call from the leader.
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    tree
    tree
    What kind of trouble?
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    Matthias
    Some men get angry when they are struggling and others offer to help because they interpret it as others thinking they are inferior or incapable of doing things on their own. That might explain why she saw you struggling and didn't offer to help.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    She was just a b to me
    Tony Ramirez
    Therapy and therapist are useless in helping me. I am about to drop them completely.
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    Matthias
    Therapists can't change the past or how other people treat you. The main purpose of therapy is to help people change their beliefs, thinking, attitude, and behavior, which can reduce stress, improve mood, and lead to better relationships. However, therapy only works if you want to change. If you're not willing to change your beliefs, thinking, or behavior, there isn't much a therapist can do for you.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Most therapist are quakes only for a paycheck.
    Tony Ramirez
    Had a horrible day today. Mother insulting me. Women ignored, hated me. I am miserable and tired of living.
    FayetheADHDsquirrel
    FayetheADHDsquirrel
    I'm sorry you are having a bad time again. I hope tomorrow will be a better day. Just purposefully think about the positive things no matter how small they are.
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    Steelbookcollector217
    how does your Mom insult you? what does she say to you?
    Tony Ramirez
    I had two women help me through a difficult day, the other one only spoke Spanish while I approached another few with kindness back liking my artwork.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Just started this year actually
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    Steelbookcollector217
    how do you think people rate your artwork? reminds me how for a couple of years now i've been in contact with another special needs autistic guy, i can't help but feel sorry for him, besides autism, i do believe him being born premature as a baby also contributed to his mental/cognitive difficulties and social struggles.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    They like it, even though I know I suck at it. Even a cute emo e-girl liked it @Markness likes those types, as I am do too now more.
    Tony Ramirez
    I'm getting dumber by the day because of the way women hate me.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Your not me or seen the hatred or faces they give me especially when they get up and leave when I'm sitting here then or they sit or they avoid me.
    tree
    tree
    Definitely true that I am not you.
    So I don't know what you see.

    I have seen how you frequently interpret people's intentions
    in a negative way, though. As if you believe you can read
    their minds.
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    Matthias
    Social isolation and emotional distress (from feeling rejected or hated) can impair cognitive and intellectual functioning. Therefore, if the women's you've been approaching don't want a relationship with you, it might be worth considering relationships with others, such as older women or men.
    Tony Ramirez
    Women hate me. I thought I was wrong, but yesterday all day first volunteer which I know I am going to get kicked out of proofed it.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Needed help and that women purposely ignored me trying to cut the branch three times I said you SOB to her and I got in trouble. It's a volunteer to help others, not just be with your clicks friends and talking to a social class to meet new people.
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    Steelbookcollector217
    did things fall apart between that woman you mentioned you met back in August?
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Yes as always they eventually ghost or don't get back to me unless I text them first and even then I have to beg on my hands and legs.
    Tony Ramirez
    How many meetup groups did I get kicked out of.
    Three count them because they don't understand my meltdowns. The other three I didn't I am still in because one has a daughter, a partner who works with autism and the other person is disabled.
    Judge
    Judge
    If they are meetup groups oriented specifically with autistic members in mind:

    "Yes, autistic meeting groups should aim to create a supportive environment that tolerates meltdowns, as they are often a natural response to overwhelming situations for autistic individuals. Understanding and compassion can help members feel safe and accepted during such experiences." -Duck Duck Go Search Assist
    Judge
    Judge
    Conversely non-autistic meetup groups...participate at your own risk.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    The problem is I can't find any in person autistic groups that are level 1 mild autism. So I look for similar groups. I got lucky with three and a midtown church center with leaders knowing autistic people, which is why they took my meltdowns.
    Tony Ramirez
    I now have a steady trauma and anger management therapist. Hope for the best for my mental health.
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    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    Maybe you will finally get some great therapy. Make sure to ask questions if you don't understand. :)
    AprilR
    AprilR
    I hope it helps you.
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    Steelbookcollector217
    and i apologize if this is an uncomfortable topic, but i hope you have a serious discussion with your folks regarding your future, future in the sense of being able to support yourself after your folks are gone, as in, obviously this applies to everyone, none of our folks are gonna be around forever, since i doubt collecting disability for the rest of your life would be enough to support yourself.
    Tony Ramirez
    A woman I meet in August actually wants to get a coffee with me this week and hangout. I accepted.
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    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    Hey, that's cool. Just stay low-key. It's just a coffee, not anything else. Think of some conversation topics that are interesting, not about mom and dad. Maybe memorize a silly joke, talk about something interesting that happened to you, and make sure to ask questions about her. That is a great way to start. No matter what happens, she asked you out, don't forget that. May you have many more coffee dates.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I took it snails pace messaging her actually waiting over 2 weeks between communicating last one was over 2 weeks she got back to me today. Meds calming me down.
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    Steelbookcollector217
    well thats good, if you are content with that only, then more power to you
    Tony Ramirez
    How do you trust people when every so-called friend's single person you knew backstabbed you, left you in the past?
    Judge
    Judge
    Trust should be earned. Never simply given.

    "Shame me once, shame on you. Shame me twice, shame on me."
    Tony Ramirez
    It must be nice having a friend group to hang out with when you want to. I don't have that. I'm not entitled to that.
    Tony Ramirez
    I gained 30 pounds in 2 months.
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    thejuice
    That sucks.
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    Steelbookcollector217
    i assume you stopped going to Yoga sessions or other forms of fitness, i don't exercise as consistently as i used to and i think a contributing factor as to what hurt my motivation was losing my best friend of 13 years, the one who ghosted me.
    Tony Ramirez
    Being born a man sucks. When you have a mental breakdown when people ignore you, they blame you. When a woman just trips, everyone is too her aid.
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    thejuice
    Even the medical professionals blame the patient. They emphasise the disease of masculinity, undervalue positive masculine traits and alienate us. They want to manufacture a 'new man'. In no other circumstance would blaming an illness bearer's character, attitude or behaviour be acceptable. Social context is minimised, instead a close minded focus on how toxic and outdated the victim is.
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    thejuice
    One charming billboard campaign in America went "Each year 1000s of men die from stubbornness." Then they wonder why men would rather die than engage the scolds in the system.
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    Steelbookcollector217
    even though people will say its how its always been, nevertheless, i always hated being the hunter/pursuer, i will always hate it with every fiber of my being
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