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Tony Ramirez

Tony Ramirez

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Overmedicated Single Aspie RSD NEET 48 From Brooklyn, NY
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  • Tony Ramirez
    I been to the yoga and the gym six days this past week. I weight myself today. I am 286 pounds. I lost another 5 pounds this week.
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    Great news. You are achieving quite alot. It's very hard for people to give up adoration of food, it comforts us. This is control of what you consume. Give yourself a pat on the back. You are cutting down your medical bills. Covid affected people who were way overweight. It really targeted this group. We aren't meant to walk around overweight, it taxes our heart. A orthopedic surgeon and a psychiatrist
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    Said this.
    Tony Ramirez
    I approached an attractive woman after yoga how was the class. She was so friendly. She talked to me. She also helped me holding my bag to put my mat in.
    Tony Ramirez
    Google will now force block and blur any cleavage in images even if it's not nude but they will show explicit language uncensored with safe search on.
    tree
    tree
    Sounds like you're dis-satisfied on 2 counts.
    What do you plan to do about that?
    Use another search engine?
    MildredHubble
    MildredHubble
    Any cleavage? Seems a little ridiculous, kinda basically assuming women's bodies are just sexualised objects that need to be hidden and censored. If there were nude images, then I could understand the need to censor. But to be impartial, they should do the same with images of men's chests.
    Misery
    Misery
    I looked this up out of curiosity. The thing can be turned off (so it says, anyway)
    Tony Ramirez
    How can I resist the urge to look at attractive woman? They are literally everywhere.
    tree
    tree
    This urge to look isn't the problem, is it?
    If there's a *problem* it would be what you say to yourself when
    you see them.
    Tony Ramirez
    Why are there no events Friday or Saturday evening for me? Those nights are so boring for me.
    Rodafina
    Rodafina
    Room for trying something totally new, perhaps?
    Tony Ramirez
    I though third time was a charm. That woman I been talking to was at the Wednesday dinner this evening. At the end I took a elevator and walked her outside to say goodnight. I still chickened out by not exchanging numbers.
    Rodafina
    Rodafina
    What if you forget about getting her number and just enjoy her company so you are not stressing about it?

    Then you could relax and let things happen naturally.

    There is no rule stating you must
    1. Speak to girl.
    2. Exchange numbers.
    3. Coffee date.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    She said she was single so now I know that. But you are right. I enjoy her company. I do get overwhelmed and stressed thinking of those three rules.
    Tony Ramirez
    Once again after church I talked to a woman I meet last week. Again I had an opportunity to ask to exchange numbers during the end of our conversation as she seem interesting in talking to me more, but I blew it by saying nothing, chickened out yet again.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    It just seems like a perfect opportunity missed. I did Google "too afraid to ask a girl her number" and it's quite common, not a ASD thing either.
    tree
    tree
    Sounds like you're close to the time when asking for a number
    will be a thing you can do. When it's comfortable enough for
    you, you'll do it.
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    I keep on telling you to think like a cat. My little furballs are never shy about asking for what they want.
    Tony Ramirez
    Except for spotting two woman at the park, every woman had a man attracted to them.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I know that. I have to believe that.
    AdamG
    AdamG
    Are you going to the park for the sole purpose of meeting women? Are you not going to also enjoy the park?
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    A little bit of both. But I go just about anywhere to meet woman. It's a part of me. I know. I can't help it.
    Tony Ramirez
    My complaints journal is been getting less complaints this past two weeks. Been getting more neutral and positive things.
    AdamG
    AdamG
    You are awesome. I have seen you grow so much in just a few weeks. :)
    Tony Ramirez
    Although I am trying to get better the sight of face masks still tick me off and I sometimes lose my temper but less than before.
    Rodafina
    Rodafina
    It’s good to notice progress and think about what is helping.
    Tony Ramirez
    If a younger version of myself can see me now he will be shocked that I can socialize by joining groups, going to yoga and approaching women.
    Tony Ramirez
    You know what, my life is not that bad. I have no debt. A roof over my head. I am healthy. I got a lot of positive things and positive people in my life from my family they don't sometimes show it (they still love me) but my friends, therapists, and yoga instructors.
    Tony Ramirez
    I was bummed my therapist postponed our session until Friday, but I did tell her briefly that I approached and talked to a woman for a long time on Sunday. She was proud and we will talk in more detail on Friday.
    Tony Ramirez
    It's true most of the time woman don't come up to you for a conversation you have to come up to them no matter how difficult it is.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I am also finding out that doing it is not as impossible as it seems.
    AdamG
    AdamG
    How I ended up meeting my partner was in a class we both took. I tried talking to her every week for 7 weeks until I did. It was scary, heck yes. But I'm so glad I did.
    S
    Steelbookcollector217
    Adam, you said you didn't meet your wife until your 40s right? i assume you had girlfriends in your 20s
    Tony Ramirez
    Just now a woman who I thought was stuck up to me in yoga class today politely said bye Tony after class. She's been too a few of my classes. I judge woman too easily.
    M
    Mary Terry
    I think you do judge women too harshly but you're making progress, Tony. Keep on being friendly, be open to everyone, try to start up a little conversation with people you encounter and remember that every interaction you have with other people is a step forward. It takes a lot of practice.
    AdamG
    AdamG
    Women may often be shy to start conversations. "Stuck up" might just be "introverted". I'm glad you started thinking about this.
    AdamG
    AdamG
    speaking of which, I've been called "Snobby" or "Stuck Up" so many times. But I'm not. I'm afraid to talk, and in conversations, I don't know what to say.
    Tony Ramirez
    Approached another woman I don't know at the church lunch today. We had a long conversation. Only big regret was I did not exchange numbers. I hope I see her again. If I see her I will talk to her.
    AdamG
    AdamG
    That is wonderful news. You have really made some progress :) And, now you can look forward to seeing her again to get her number too.
    Tony Ramirez
    Though my week was going to be good but started out real bad. Hurt my foot. Tripped over a sheet. In pain. Ruined my plans. Might not be able to do yoga or the gym for a few days.
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