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Asperger's & Autism Forum

Misery
Misery
Being a true friend to someone means accepting them for who they are, not who you want them to be. If they cant manage to do that for you, if they cant see that you're just fine as you are, then that's their problem... not yours.
Misery
Misery
And really anyone who is making you feel like you arent meant to have friends or something, aint much of a worthwhile friend themselves. You deserve better than that.
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Luca
Thanks Sophie. I just always feel like I’m the one who ruins everything. But deep down I know you’re right.
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VictorR
I've never had friend groups - just individual friends. Is that something that may work better for you possibly? With individual friends it seems like there might be less risk of multi-dimensional misunderstandings.
Metalhead
Metalhead
Some people are not meant to have irl friendships, namely whoever makes another person feel the way you do.
Kisa the tea
Kisa the tea
I have no friends offline. There is not a single person in this city I am friends with. But I have good online friends like you. It's sad people have made you feel like you're the problem when you're one of the nicest people there is. You're a great person and anyone who doesn't see that and just puts you down instead doesn't deserve you as a friend.
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Luca
Thank you, Kisa and Metalhead. That is so nice and I really appreciate it.
@VictorR That's basically what it's come down to. I don't mean this to be offensive towards non-autistic people at all but it is too complicated to have groups of several friends of them, because of what you mentioned, multi-dimensional misunderstandings.
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Luca
My closest friendships are either online friends, or friendships where I am one on one with someone. Or, my girlfriend, who is very special and is a saint for putting up with me lol
oregano
oregano
I don't have any friends, and I've long since accepted that that's the way my life is going to be. "Normal" people don't want to be around neurodivergent people unless it's to point and laugh at them or gawk at the rare "savant" as if they were zoo animals. They don't want to be around me, so I don't want to be around them.
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