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Gerald Wilgus
Markness! I know that dynamic, and as I had to confront it, nobody was denying me anything: I was the one denying myself a relationship when I was lonely because I was afraid to engage with interesting women. And, when I finally broke through, I found that there were women who appreciated me.
Gerald Wilgus
To continue. Even now there are some lonely women in their late thirties who have given up on dating. I enjoy talking to them and have found out that they are turned off by the selfish macho guys. Instead they would like to meet more sensitive guys who are accepting and attentive to their emotional needs. They only ask to be noticed and be treated with gentleness and respect. What is stopping you?
Markness
It’s not so much that I am being stopped. It’s more that I make attempts to socialize but they tend to fizzle out or they are unproductive.
Markness
I even asked a shy looking girl out for coffee and she turned me down. Both people on here and in my regular life also tell me that I shouldn’t even attempt that.
tree
You could stop saying that you're 'being denied' since nobody else is in charge of doling out social connections.
You could say that you're trying.
This 'fizzling out' thing you mention frequently.
Try playing forum games more often.
They are good practice in continuing engagement with other people.
You could say that you're trying.
This 'fizzling out' thing you mention frequently.
Try playing forum games more often.
They are good practice in continuing engagement with other people.
Gerald Wilgus
"I even asked a shy looking girl out for coffee and she turned me down."
So, critique your interaction, improve your delivery and ask another girl out for coffee. Did you even look her in the eyes and smile as you asked?
So, critique your interaction, improve your delivery and ask another girl out for coffee. Did you even look her in the eyes and smile as you asked?
Markness
@Gerald Wilgus Yes, I did indeed look at her in the eyes and had a positive expression.
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