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Recent content by UpAllNightReading

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    Any tips on rebuilding confidence for a job search?

    Hi everyone, For several years I've run my own web design business. In recent months my business has taken a downturn, and I'm looking at shutting down or reducing my business and taking a job. I've just lost my enthusiasm altogether. My confidence has also taken a beating, and I haven't had...
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    How do you deal with shame and regret?

    Over the course of my 40-plus years I've learned a lot of social skills, but every once in a while I say something that just falls flat, or is unintentionally hurtful. I often only recognize that it's so because they're angry with me. And even after things are patched up between us, I'm left...
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    Parenting on the spectrum

    We're raising a 1-year-old, and I've just recently begun spending two weekdays as a stay-at-home dad. The rest of the week I work at my office (I rent an office with a couple of friends for my web dev work). I'm usually really awkward around kids, but with my son it's different. Talking and...
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    To tell or not to tell?

    I should also mention that I've done a pretty good job of convincing people of my 'normality' over the years, but anyone who's known me long enough knows me as quirky. My mom calls me a late bloomer, which is really just a euphemism to explain why it took me so many years to get off the ground...
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    Asperger's and difficulty with authority figures

    Yes, I've always had a deep, deep distrust of authority figures, as I've found too many of them abuse that authority. I've always thought that anyone in a position of authority needs to earn the trust of anyone under their authority, not the other way around.
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    To tell or not to tell?

    Since I realized days ago that I'm an undiagnosed Aspie, I've shifted between two strong polar opposites: to keep it a secret from everyone except to those most closest to me, or to just be open about it and tell everyone that I'm an Aspie. The former fits in well with my desire for privacy...
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    So glad to be here!

    Thanks, everyone. :)
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    "But s/he looks just like me": How we confuse NT partners

    Sorry about bringing up this older message, but I thought I'd share something that might relate. Do any of you remember the movie Memento? There was a scene in that movie depicting a middle-aged married man who could only retain something like 30 seconds of new memory. But his wife suspected...
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    Boy am I glad the internet exists!

    I can relate. I spent much of my life trying to convince people that yes, I am very intelligent, but not well spoken. Now that I'm in my forties and married with a kid, I'm a bit more relaxed about it, and pretty much everyone who knows me knows me as a really smart guy, but not good in social...
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    So glad to be here!

    Hi everyone. I've just recently self-diagnosed as Asperger's after constantly finding myself hitting a brick wall in my marriage. I thought we were happy, and from my perspective we were, but my wife kept trying to explain that her emotional needs weren't being met, that she didn't think I...
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