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Recent content by Tuffsy

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    Aspie meets Aspie

    I nervously rehearsed with a new singer this week. It went so well, there was a strange but welcome familiarity. After emailing our thoughts on the possible future of our venture we discovered that we were both neurodivergent! We now need to build our repertoire and find places to play. I will...
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    Hello, everyone!

    As a musician all I can say is "Hey Jude"!!! Welcome.
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    Trying to decide whether to apply for a job

    I think putting it down in writing like this is a very positive step, if only to help you see things as clearly as possible. I decided to not take a really great job which would have required staying in rented accommodation during the week and coming home on weekends and I regret it to this day...
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    Antidepressant for Social Avoidance/Anxiety?

    I had extreme anxiety when I started a new job as a teacher at age 55. It was very scary! My GP started me on an anti-depressant (forgot name) which didn't work, but then he prescribed an SSRI (Zoloft) and this really did the trick for my 3 years of teaching before I had to leave. It then took...
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    Hi Everyone !!!

    Thankyouverymuch, Jeff!
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    Hi Everyone !!!

    Welcome from Australia. Love your lamb!
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    That Time of Year Again

    I'm tempted to say "Bah Humbug!". My son and daughter both live in different parts of the world so I don't celebrate Xmas. As mentioned in a previous post, I started playing guitar for a dementia choir and we have started to learn some Christmas carols to sing in nursing homes, which will give a...
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    Anyone got any insight into the aftermath of a melt down

    Reading all the replies makes me feel like I’m not alone. I usually feel embarrassed and ashamed after a meltdown. These days I tend to tell groups that I join that I might have a meltdown. It probably makes no difference to their responses to my meltdown but it makes me feel better!
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    Aspie think.

    You hit the nail on the head, we are indispensable! As an IT support person I could always see behind the problem a person was describing, which usually assumed (incorrectly) a reason for the problem which was totally off the mark.
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    Are you understood?

    I agree with zeros in my past professional life and current social life, but since I've been writing songs about my life experiences people do seem to get me. I truly believe that music can reach people where nothing else can. 🎸🎸
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    Mixing / Mastering music

    I also just use Audacity for all of my multichannel music recordings, I use a Steinberg UR22C interface for instruments and vocals. I did try an online mastering service called waves.com which gave quite good results, but I had to re-Eq all of my tracks before the pre-mastered levels were any...
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    Level 1, more questions than answers

    G'Day and welcome. We have similar experiences, you will get a lot out of this group.
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    Married + late ASD1 diagnosis = problems

    My story is fairly negative. I married at 24 (43years ago), always knew I was different but tried to be normal. When I couldn't be normal I was ridiculed which eventually made me bitter about the relationship. Counselling didn't help. After diagnosis, age 54, I was told that I was using my Dx as...
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    Making a tagelharpa

    That's fantastic, I'd love to do that, didn't know you could buy horse hair! I have made and repair guitars so I imagine that the intonation would be quite tricky. Do you use your ear to play in tune? Great project!! 🎸🎸
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    Nachos survey!

    I often have a pulled pork nachos at my bowling club, although the vege one is yummy too. I don’t really like corn chips but nachos makes them bearable!
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