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Recent content by shysnail

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    I don't feel safe here anymore

    One thing I like about this thread is how it so perfectly demonstrates exactly what @Pinkie B was saying about this forum not being a safe space for women.
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    Hi I’m new. My psychiatrist said I may have aspergers

    Hi and welcome @Qwertz. Perhaps digging into some research about autism, as well as spending time on this forum, you can begin to get a feel for whether autism "fits" for you. And if so, as @GadAbout says, a diagnosis (either official or self-diagnosis) could help in terms of understanding...
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    I don't feel safe here anymore

    The tone on this thread is really off-putting in a lot of places. It seems there's a whole lot of "oh it's just political correctness gone MAD!" rather than actually trying to listen to and understand people with a different point of view. Either that or people have completely misunderstood what...
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    I don't feel safe here anymore

    I wasn't calling you out @the_tortoise, I thought your replies were respectful and took on board other perspectives, even if it wasn't something you'd thought about before. I don't agree about intent being the only thing that matters. While I do agree that the "right" words can be used with...
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    I don't feel safe here anymore

    I feel a little taken aback by some of the responses here. I know there's the potential for false equivalences, but since a lot of us are autistic here, we surely know how language can affect people, don't we? It's not a matter of intent, or "never thought about it" or dismissing the person as...
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    I don't feel safe here anymore

    It's not about generation. It's about being respectful to the terminology that people prefer to have used about themselves and people like them.
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    I don't feel safe here anymore

    I think "female" has quite biological, reductionist connotations, personally. As Pinkie said, it's like reducing women down to their vagina. Women is a full social identity. Female is a biological designation.
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    I don't feel safe here anymore

    It will be such a shame if you leave @Pinkie B. I always really enjoy hearing your insights and input. I've also noticed instances of misogyny on this site, and it really is discouraging. I'm here because I'm autistic, but I'm also a woman, and it's like you have to pick which one of those...
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    This decade was a waste

    I hope you don't find the above insensitive. I do honestly know how awful it is to feel this way. But I personally have found it useful to see life as a perspective thing. Am I doing well objectively, compared with the standards society says a human being needs to meet? Not even close! I have so...
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    Autistic people are difficult for non-autistic people to read

    The burden is on autistic people to adapt and learn to communicate with NT people effectively, never the other way around. It's frustrating.
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    Do you use reusable coffee cups?

    I think it would be a really good thing environmentally to get a reusable coffee cup for when I go to coffee places, but I'm worried about it being awkward handing it over to the staff to fill. Even though I know more and more people are using them, it still feels kind of uncomfortable to me...
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    What made you UNHAPPY today?

    Neighbours threw knife into our garden last night. Feel unsafe and vulnerable.
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    I don’t understand what I am doing wrong on social media

    I think you've received some good insights from other people, but I will just throw in my two cents. 1. A lot of people don't know about photography. I certainly don't. Rather than liking a photo because it's a 'good' photo, people are more likely to like a photo that is of a subject that they...
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    Autism and jobs

    I imagine being a teacher would be very hard and overwhelming as an autistic person. I certainly couldn't do it. However, there are people on this site who have/have had all sorts of jobs that I could never see myself managing, so we're all different. You just have to work out what is possible...
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    Have you ever made a purchase that you regret?

    All the time. In fact, my process is almost exactly the same as yours @inkfingers. I'll see something, want it, daydream about it, and then decide whether to get it or not over a period of days or weeks. Right now, there's a whole series of collectors items that I want. I had them when I was a...
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