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Recent content by Oleg Steptoe

  1. Oleg Steptoe

    Why are people so quick to make assumptions about us

    After a certain number of years of those kind of reactions, I've developed a type of hypervigilance toward ignorant people and I've learned that they have a very bad reaction to that. I've only recently become aware of this: the hypervigilance and how and why they react like that. I doubt that...
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    Muscle tension and tightness

    What you've described along with the breathing tightness sounds very familiar. The chronic, unconscious tensing and clenching of muscles for me is known as muscle armoring. I have the chronic tightness of the neck and shoulder muscles really bad. I've been trying yoga practices as they...
  3. Oleg Steptoe

    Disabled and Non-disabled

    Yeah. That's what I thought and what I meant by 'ugh' isn't what you thought I meant. I'm not going to normalize your thing. So, no. You will take 'no' for an answer.
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    Disabled and Non-disabled

    OK. I thought that's what this was. I concur with 'ugh.'
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    Disabled and Non-disabled

    They're gonna repeal Obama's signature healthcare legislation and the rise of intolerance. Other than that, 'Swonderfulllll.... 'Smarveloussss.
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    Disabled and Non-disabled

    I live in the US and the Trump world is looking pretty scary and it hasn't even started yet. But our health care system is already pretty shoddy especially at the lower end of the mental healthcare 'system.' I sometimes thought of it as an outpatient 'snake pit.' Kinda nightmarish where auties...
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    "I'm worried about you."

    I'm really cynical so I think of it like this.: They're not really asking; I call it non-asking a non-question. They know the person is "Not OK" and they're telling the person, "You'd better not be 'Not OK'" but they put it in the form of a question. It's still Not OK to be Not OK... Cos...
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    what kinder people do you attract

    Yeah. I think my outsider status, along with a ton of other stuff has given me a hyperactive sense of justice. That all comes from me being on the receiving end of typical injustice due to my outsider status and my identification with others in similar situations. Ya know.... empathy.
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    what kinder people do you attract

    Same here. A lot. I think it's the pheromones as well as the fact the 90% or more of communication is nonverbal and I don't know that language and I'm doing it wrong and I've always known that; (I just couldn't put it into words.) The other person picks that up instinctually and jumps to wrong...
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    what kinder people do you attract

    I've been prone to that as well, I call them trappers. They like to trap me in a nightmare conversation for as long as they can. But it's not a conversation, its a pointless monologue about themselves and their bloated egos.
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    what kinder people do you attract

    That's a victim-blaming slogan and there are a lot of those. A more blatant one is "there are no victims, only volunteers.." Some people wanna normalize that kind of thing and shift blame to those they hurt or those who are hurt.
  12. Oleg Steptoe

    what kinder people do you attract

    This seems common, I've read about it and experienced it too many times. Though this isn't about aspies per se, it resonates with me: The Highly Sensitive Person and the Narcissist
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    "I'm worried about you."

    Me too. Big time. I once told a boorish type 'Don't tell me to smile' and it floored him enough to stop him for a while. Then he started up again. Strangers like to bark at me to smile or the faux-polite ones do this classic: 'Are you okaaaayyyyyyy?' But I live in a 'working class' town whose...
  14. Oleg Steptoe

    Random ideas, thoughts, post them here.

    Yeah, the sin is really about adulterating another man's family line by impregnating his wife. They didn't have paternity tests back then.
  15. Oleg Steptoe

    Bah Humbug!

    The original novelette is in the public domain and can be downloaded from kindle or project Gutenberg for free Christmas Carol, A (version 2) There's a BBC audiobook podcast on Stitcher or prob. BBC.co.uk Gutenberg does audio books too for free. OK. Here's YouTube. It says 86 min. and it...
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