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Recent content by MacLoughlan

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    Should I take a "social skills" class?

    I would suggest taking this class in social skills and anything similar. Personally I've been helped enormously by drama class (also Tai Chi classes fixed by physical awkwardness, though that is a different story). The bottom line to me is that the more you know the less stressful and...
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    Photos of faces showing emotions...

    Gold! .......? Maybe: I might have found something really useful to this end - there's an acting coach that teaches "the language of the face" for actors trying, I suppose, to make the transition from stage acting to screen acting: The coach 's name is John Sudol and you'll find him on...
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    Photos of faces showing emotions...

    When I was young, I forced myself to make conversation, and if I didn't my (4) brothers would give me a really hard time, and it becomes a habit. Now virtually everything I say is pre-rehearsed. Dale Carnegie's book (How to Win Fiends and Influence People)is very useful as is getting a good...
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    Photos of faces showing emotions...

    I was diagnosed late (48), after falling into something of a hole (flat broke, out of work, no prospects etc). One of my key problems is that I am very limited in reading emotional states and in recognizably signalling my own with the effect that I can categorically state with absolute...
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    To those undiagnosed Asperger's Syndrome

    Get diagnosed ASAP! I mucked up my career something rotten. Then I discovered I had/have AS, and it was the AS traits that made my career strategies bound to fail. It's not having AS that's the problem, its not knowing it. So if you suspect you might have it, get tested and find out. Then...
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    What are the upsides, the advantages you have that come with your autism/autism spectrum?

    None. No upside at all. Actually, my experience is that AS is at the root of all my difficulties in getting a livelihood. I did have a career for about 13 years, once being a senior portfolio manager, and once setting up a hedge fund and running its investments. I was a consistently good...
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    The price of Honesty

    I've had the experience with NTs of "oh, that's you Aspergers" as a (lame) excuse for their own defects, bad manners, and conceited one upmanship. NT basically being an ass. "the fault lines not in the stars, but in YOU, NT"! It happens, and it's a pain. For example, one of my young...
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    Movies About Aspergers Syndrome or Autism

    Does Kramer from Seinfeld show some of the Aspie tendencies? A lot of the comedy of that character seems to center around his being somewhat insulated from the people around him, which seems to be somewhat autistic/inward looking, and he does not seem able to learn from these encounters. ...
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    I want to fix this

    Hi, Jessica: Your story is very familiar to me. Earlier this year I suspected, and became convinced that I had Aspergers, finally getting a formal diagnosis in September... aged 48. Amongst other things, Asperger's is the most significant part of the the chain of decisions and actions I've...
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    Had A Psychiatrist's Visit Yesterday

    I just opened a thread under the title "Seeing a psychiatrist for the first time to get a diagnosis…" - he just told me I was depressed. Over the years I fixed, if you can say that, my physical clumsiness (2 years doing Tai Chi while at College), monotone speech (Guildhall, Spoken English and...
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    just for fun--you might be aspie IF--

    ... you think this is the funny: "Three Australians walked into a bar." Okay, okay, it's the way I tell it: "Three Australians walked into ... a bar!" Alright, the long version: "Three Australians walked into a bar. Then they went to get a drink. Then three Irishmen walked into...
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    Movies About Aspergers Syndrome or Autism

    Catherine (played by Gwyneth Paltrow) in the 2005 movie Proof? Being a math grad, I thought that she played a mathematician really well - obsessive interest, geeky mannerism, social awkwardness etc. Now that I've become aware of aspergers, it seems that that is what she is playing. I...
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    Hi,

    I read about the Michael Burry in Michael Lewis? book ?The Big Short? and thought much of what he was describing as aspergers was really familiar to me - he could be describing me. I more recently saw some video clips of asperger?s people and some of what they describe I?ve always been really...
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