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Recent content by Eric B

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    What are your stims/what do you do as stimming?

    Tapping or flipping a stick or pen to a rhythm (something actually playing or just in my head), or at least just holding it. On my 18th birthday, I decided to adopt that to replace this vigorous fidgeting I did with my fingers, and caught flack for my whole life and had to hide. It seemed like a...
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    Hanging on to our childhood likes

    Oh, wow; I had that one when I was a kid at some point! My main childhood likes I hold onto are in the area of music, Christmas (music and decorations) and cartoons!
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    Want to commit suicide any painless ways?

    I saw all that, and explained what it's coming from. My point is that you and one or two others are taking offense, it seems, and then firing back these sharp judgments that will accomplish nothing, but just create more bad feelings and defensiveness. When I see that, I just feel his dilemma...
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    Want to commit suicide any painless ways?

    OK, great. (And in light of the state he was in, it's understandable to wonder, and I just hadn't gone searching for him elsewhere yet. Bu thanks!)
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    Want to commit suicide any painless ways?

    So I can understand the thing about being jealous of couples, and then what he said about the park (which ironically is just a mile from the church I was going to at the very end of my incel days, which seemed to be coming to head, until I suddenly finally found someone). I understand it sounds...
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    Want to commit suicide any painless ways?

    Wow; I'm so sorry you felt so distressed as to be asking how to commit suicide! There are times I feel hopeless like that, but that's such a (obviously) big and drastic move, that will affect those around you (even if they don't show they care), and we don't even know what's on "the other...
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    Autism fakers

    When I see some of the "tough talk" a few here give people in the depths of despair or confusion about things, I have to wonder if they're really autistic, because they don't seem to understand the condition at all. (There's probably no autisic person that has not heard all the tough talk...
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    Statement on "self-absorption"

    That's a good ideal, but from what I've seen, in practice, very few people are really 'there', NT or ND. Even if they claim to be, they still do not accept everything or just anything someone might say about them, and will defend themselves, often strongly. That's a natural boundary we all have...
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    Statement on "self-absorption"

    Your method doesn't say these things; it implies them. What do you call when someone says something, and you respond to it by referring to stuff like "cognitive distortions"? And you're still doing it; still with the key word "attacked" (which you tied to "cognitive distortions"), and now, also...
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    Statement on "self-absorption"

    Anyone can believe that they are "rational" and others are "irrational" and posting that link is showing you are being very partisan, and not objective, as you're trying to present yourself. Those "studies" are SPUN, and by selecting different data, can be made to say whatever anyone wants them...
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    Statement on "self-absorption"

    You did say: That is rather "black and white", and as I said, when I spit it back (perhaps paraphrased a bit), then I've bought the "black and white" label, and the other person is completely off the hook. Yes, there are cognitive distortions, but when this is tossed out like this at any...
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    Statement on "self-absorption"

    This shows exactly the disparity I was talking about. It starts with the apparent assumption that the NT's are "always right". That's practically what you said last time (and I should have addressed, in addition to the autist's behavior by itself that leads to divorce). We're being made...
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    Statement on "self-absorption"

    Yeah, as I said, the person (admittedly) apparently has DD-NOS, and perhaps other stuff like Borderline, etc. so that will figure in it. Also, with MBTI typology (which we have threads on, if anyone doesn't know what it's about); she's an ENTJ, while I'm INTP. The two types are similar in some...
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    Statement on "self-absorption"

    Another variation of the term I should have mentioned, but forgot at the moment, was "self-involved". The way I've seen it used, it seems to be synonymous with "self-absorbed", but I'm sure there are some distinctions. Still, both terms have been turned into these negative labels people shoot...
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    Statement on "self-absorption"

    Hi all, again! Was posting here years ago, but my attention shifted, and I fell away for a time. But recently, I've been thinking about the topic of "self-absorption". A term leveled at me by my wife and others over the years, and also typically tagged on Aspies (or HFA's, as we're going by...
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