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Recent content by Emmz

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    Can a life-and-soul-of-the-party be autistic?

    A friend (one of very few who knows my diagnosis) recently announced that she has also been diagnosed as autistic. She was obviously expecting that this would lead to a sense of solidarity between us, but in fact we seem to have fallen out over it. The problem is I just can’t bring myself to...
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    Shut out by my supervisor

    I I've no interest in becoming friends with either of them - but I think we do have to be friendly, otherwise it would reflect badly on me.
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    Shut out by my supervisor

    Yes, I'm keeping my eyes open for something permanent. But this job has its advantages - plus, from experience, anywhere else is likely to come with similar or worse problems. So I don't want to jump ship too hastily.
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    Shut out by my supervisor

    Well, she's a lot older than him so I'd be very surprised if anything is going on. But it could well be that she enjoys mothering him!
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    Employment Tribunal

    I haven't been the subject of a tribunal, but have attended them for work. I presume the reasonable adjustments and discrimination relate to autism, so could you discuss your fears with your solicitor (or whoever is representing you)? Maybe agree with the tribunal at the start that you can ask...
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    Shut out by my supervisor

    Hi guys. I started a new office job last month. People mostly seem nice. I work in a team of three, including my supervisor. My other colleague started around the same time as me, although he is on a permanent contract while mine is only for 12 months. He's fresh out of uni, whereas I have 20...
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    How can I avoid my new colleagues hating me?

    Hey that's great advice - you obviously know what you're talking about here! I'm not sure how easy it would be to out it into action tho, particularly dealing with micro-managers, as that does get me really stressed and riled. I guess what it comes down to is that the advice you often hear to...
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    How can I avoid my new colleagues hating me?

    In my last job, it was two women - both very loud and domineering, had both been in the job for years, hated it and loved to moan. Both loved to talk at great length about their families and holidays, which I took zero interest in. One was my team leader at one point and tried to micro-manage...
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    How can I avoid my new colleagues hating me?

    Hey, that book looks great - I've ordered my copy. Thanks! I also love her poem, Manifesto Behind the Mask:
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    How can I avoid my new colleagues hating me?

    I agree that autistic people are generally better suited to self-employment. Unfortunately I made the mistake of doing an arts degree, so don't have a marketable skill! (I tried to be a freelance writer / proofreader at one point, but wasn't making enough money to live on.) If I could give...
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    How can I avoid my new colleagues hating me?

    It's a union, so the organisation itself is very strong on equality and diversity (a major reason I wanted to work there). But obviously that doesn't mean that all individuals within it will behave like saints all the time.
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    How can I avoid my new colleagues hating me?

    I'm not required to reveal it, but there are advantages in doing so. I can ask for reasonable adjustments - eg if I find myself in a particularly noisy, busy office then I could ask to be moved somewhere quieter. Also it makes me harder to sack, as if the employer was aware of my condition and...
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    How can I avoid my new colleagues hating me?

    I start a new job next week for a trade union. I didn't mention my ASD in my application or at interview, but do intend to once I start if I'm given a medical questionnaire to fill in. I've had a lot of jobs up to this point, and, looking back, there has always at least one colleague in...
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    Meet-up groups for ASD

    I'm considering setting up a Meet-Up group for local people with ASD. The reasons are: I'm single, not close to my family and seem to have the world's most flaky, unavailable friends. So I keep seeing events i'd like to attend (films, theatre, etc) but have nobody to go with, and it's...
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    Why is it that friends hardly ever contact me first?

    On a good day, I tell myself that people have different roles in a friendship. So it's the other person's role to do most of the talking, particularly the witty banter and entertaining anecdotes, as I know I'm not able to do any of that stuff. What I can do is the boring admin stuff - eg...
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