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    Who has less emotions? NT or Auties?

    It must be frustrating when NTs say that Aspies lack empathy or emotions...I believe it's not a matter of who has more or less emotions but rather a question of the differences in the ways that people with aspergers feel and express emotions and the way NTs feel and express emotions. I am NT...
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    Long-term NT-Aspie Relationship: Is Invalidation Normal?

    Thank you for sharing the anecdotes. I am extremely appreciative that I get a glimpse into the experience of living with Aspergers. @Suzanne part of me recognizing what you are saying about getting respect and that things wont change and part of me still believes it can change because I do...
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    Long-term NT-Aspie Relationship: Is Invalidation Normal?

    This is all great stuff! I love reading and downloaded some books on dating Aspies. I'll add this one to the list. I tend to give him the benefit of the doubt for most unintentionally rude comments, however, some just hurt so much that I can't help but feel emotionally 'crushed' so to speak...
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    Long-term NT-Aspie Relationship: Is Invalidation Normal?

    I absolutely loved this post! These kinds of tips are very helpful to me. I appreciate you sharing your experience. It makes me feel less confused. The thing about any small criticism is an emergency : YES ! It's that he has needed to defend himself his whole life against a hyper-criticizing...
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    Long-term NT-Aspie Relationship: Is Invalidation Normal?

    Indeed! I am the only person who can know my own limits. I am the one in the relationship after all. As I stated before @OkRad, I am not looking to leave the relationship. Identifying my limits is my issue alone, one I've struggled with for many years. I guess, more than anything, I am looking...
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    Long-term NT-Aspie Relationship: Is Invalidation Normal?

    Thank you for the input. I absolutely agree about how every Autie / Aspie is different! Of course, I wish there was a simpler answer, but I recognize the complexity of each situation is different. My partner often indicates how it is hard for him to adapt, but I do see effort on his part. When...
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    NT/Aspie Relationships

    Thank you for the post! I was curious, what would you consider to be unstructured alone time? Thanks !
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    Who has less emotions? NT or Auties?

    It's called the Duchenne Smile. A smile that reaches the eyes which truly reflects an inner experience of joy, mirth, enjoyment. There exist a many psychological studies describing this smile versus the fake 'only mouth' version described above.
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    It is often through the quality of our listening and not the wisdom of our words that we are...

    It is often through the quality of our listening and not the wisdom of our words that we are able to effect the most profound changes
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    Long-term NT-Aspie Relationship: Is Invalidation Normal?

    Hello everyone :), This is my first post and I am looking for advice on certain aspects of my relationship with my Aspie partner. A little intro to our couple : I am a NT woman who is in a long-term relationship with an (undiagnosed) Aspie man. We have been together for almost 5 years and just...
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