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Recent content by Daniel

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    Blast From the Past (1999)

    I love this movie! When I was married, we used to watch it as part of our regular rotation of comedies we'd watch again and again. It was written and directed by Hugh Wilson, who is best known for creating the hit TV show WKRP In Cincinnati, part of the MTM Productions stable of quality...
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    Autism & Empathy

    The whole "autists have no empathy" idea is the product of the original academic studies they did decades ago and the theoretical framework and methodologies they were employing. The paradigm in psychology back then was this "black box" concept--behavioural psychology. They assumed, "We can't...
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    I'm NT and hope you can help me understand this wonderful guy I dated

    I'd say the odds of him changing for you are pretty slim. I know that's the fantasy ending of romance novels, that the attractive bad boy will turn into a good man for you, but if it hasn't happened yet, I wouldn't wait around for it. Now, I once knew a guy who started dating a really good girl...
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    Should men on the spectrum follow neurotypical advice for dating women?

    Okay, this is my last post on here because I have other things to think about. What I like about you people here is that you care about the feelings of others. We're good people! Like it is for everyone--we've just got to keep trying, and keep loving. And even if we don't have someone, we can...
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    Should men on the spectrum follow neurotypical advice for dating women?

    I didn't recommend consulting PUA advice. I suggested dating and relationship advice. There's a big difference. Like the stuff I listed above, which is consistent with a lot of what's been said here. Yes--it's important to dress and groom well. But it is possible to be good looking and not be...
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    Should men on the spectrum follow neurotypical advice for dating women?

    Here's a basic summary of what I shared. What specifically is not reasonable advice? Don't ignore a woman you're in a relationship with. Every woman is unique, but there are some generalities that are good to understand, like confidence is better than insecurity. Learning is a matter of...
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    Should men on the spectrum follow neurotypical advice for dating women?

    Oh yeah, those guys were seriously mentally ill. The stigma is bad, but those guys are also felt lonely and unloved. And they blamed their problems on the world being "unfair". But if they could have dealt with their major issue, they wouldn't have acted out so horribly. Elliot Rodger's suicide...
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    Should men on the spectrum follow neurotypical advice for dating women?

    Agreed. I don't like that kind of thing either. She's got to meet me halfway. That could be, but you weren't there. I started recognizing the pattern. I was too busy second-guessing myself to make a move. The good dating and relationship coaches, not the pick-up artist people, say exactly...
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    Should men on the spectrum follow neurotypical advice for dating women?

    That's funny--they had that happen on an episode of Silicon Valley. Absolutely right--being phony is a turn-off. One bad thing about PUA lines is different guys trying the same cliched lines over and over again, and the woman has heard it before. Good for you! Have lots of fun.
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    Should men on the spectrum follow neurotypical advice for dating women?

    Ever heard of a woman playing "hard to get"? Where she likes the guy, but doesn't give in right away, because she wants the guy to chase after her? For a man to get into a relationship in the first place, if what he's been doing hasn't been working, he's got to do something else. When I was in...
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    Should men on the spectrum follow neurotypical advice for dating women?

    "Treat women like fellow humans not a strange foreign species that you need to learn how to communicate with via youtube." Talking heterosexuality here... To a human heterosexual man, human heterosexual women are the opposite, complementary half of the species, with a sexuality and psychology...
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    Should men on the spectrum follow neurotypical advice for dating women?

    And that's exactly how a woman needs to feel during the interaction. It doesn't feel good to feel like someone is manipulating you. Another skill a man needs to learn to get a woman he wants. In general, a man can't sit around and wait for a woman to make moves on him. And if she does, he's got...
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    Should men on the spectrum follow neurotypical advice for dating women?

    Yes, I'm the contrarian who recommended seeking dating advice in the original thread. I don't mind not fitting in here (I'm used to that), and I don't expect anyone here to share my perspective. (By the way, I've been composing these responses over the course of the day, so here they all are.)...
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    Should men on the spectrum follow neurotypical advice for dating women?

    Yes, good idea to not start with videos. Those are just snippets of advice that are meant as marketing material to encourage you to buy a book or product. The useful stuff is behind a paywall. How important is it to you to have a woman in your life? Important enough to spend $50 on a book? (By...
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    Should men on the spectrum follow neurotypical advice for dating women?

    Unless you want her to eventually have sex with you. Men and women are not the same. When it comes to sexuality heterosexual men and women have different, complementary roles. If you treat a woman like she's a man towards whom you have no sexual interest, she will not feel that you are sexually...
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