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Recent content by Cosmophylla

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    British 80s Pop star Pete Burns dies!

    Oh no! He was one of the standout performers of the 80s...
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    Haha, it's a big decision. A lot of work needs to happen beforehand, too.

    Haha, it's a big decision. A lot of work needs to happen beforehand, too.
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    Cool. Herbage. （＾∇＾）

    Cool. Herbage. （＾∇＾）
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    日本に戻ろうかな？

    日本に戻ろうかな？
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    HAPPY BIRTHDAY...EVERYBODY

    Thank you, tree :blush:
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    Super independence

    Hi Diana11, I just thought I'd add something that occurred to me. I had no idea that my feeling different (and liking being unique...), feeling weird/alien, needing isolation, among many other traits., was ASD until I was 39. It was a big surprise. It's entirely possible that your ex has...
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    Betrayed

    I, too, have been in that situation, albeit a long time ago. Lies were told about me and suddenly i was cast out of my friendship group. Even my best friend turned her back on me. Luckily for me it was the end of high school and that meant I could make a clean break. It hurt like hell...
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    Ladies: What is Your Definition of a "Nice" Guy?

    Sorry, I didn't see your question. :) If these activities aren't harming the addict (and importantly, they aren't harming anyone else, either), there isn't a problem. Addiction can have a physical, physiological and psychological effect on the addict, but the addiction can affect others around...
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    Ladies: What is Your Definition of a "Nice" Guy?

    Those are the sorts of addictions I refer to. Pornography, drugs (including alcohol)... These mess with people in a deep way, and are incredibly isolating. Having a husband addicted to alcohol is hard. My previous husband is addicted to pornography. I can do without the pain of these...
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    Ladies: What is Your Definition of a "Nice" Guy?

    Sure, but after being with several people (including my present husband) with major addictions this is now a big deal for me. Coffee addiction I can deal with. Addiction itself is a deep problem.
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    I gained 20 pounds

    I have been through the same thing as you. It happened with my ex, who sounds very similar to your partner. Unfortunately the signs are all there that your relationship is over. Believe me, I know you don't want to be alone... You're feeling that it's better to be with him than nothing. But...
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    Nice guys, patriarchy, and feminism

    No you didn't have to. You make it sound like you were relegated to accepting faulty merchandise, rather than having enjoyable experiences with another human being. I am a feminist. I like nice guys. I tried to make that point in my previous post. Making blanket claims is only serving to...
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    Nice guys, patriarchy, and feminism

    You've made a lot of claims about a so-called feminist agenda here... I class myself as a feminist, and have since the 1990s when I was a student. However, to me feminism is about striving for equal respect. For balance. It is striving to be spoken to in a respectful way, and ending the...
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    Ladies: What is Your Definition of a "Nice" Guy?

    "Nice guy" could be quite a general term or could be specific to an individual. There are some values I think are general "nice guy" qualities, but there are further values that are particularly important to me but that may be irrelevant to other women. If you are asking my opinion on those...
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    What one earth is wrong with police forces??? It's 2016 and we are STILL seeing systematic...

    What one earth is wrong with police forces??? It's 2016 and we are STILL seeing systematic, legal persecution by our so-called protectors...
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