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    Do I disclose being autistic to my employer?

    Thanks for sharing your experience. I definitely need to temper my expectations with regards to work policy, and execution of that policy. I forget that policy is not diligently followed by my colleagues. In fact, when I think I'm doing the right thing by following policy, I've been told it's...
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    Do I disclose being autistic to my employer?

    This kind of accommodation would help me greatly. It's not that I don't like to be social at work, but the type of socializing that happens here is very... performative. It's hard for me to engage in that. Having a workplace that understands I go to it mostly just to do my job would help. But...
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    Do I disclose being autistic to my employer?

    @Outdated I'm in Canada so it isn't on the extreme end of being shunned, to be autistic. It makes me sad that, when it comes to accommodations, people's needs are seen as a financial burden on the company... I understand it is a business, finances do matter, but it really takes the human-ness...
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    Do I disclose being autistic to my employer?

    @TBRS1 I am answering your questions as an exercise, but you don't need to respond to this if you don't want to. 1. What real benefit will I get by telling? Understanding from my colleagues so I don't have to waste my energy on masking so much and worrying about social interactions. This...
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    Do I disclose being autistic to my employer?

    @Masked Man @Matthias Thanks for your replies. I am getting the impression that disclosing one's autism (whether formally through a diagnosis or informally to your colleagues) is met with a great deal of hostility and negativity, regardless of new workplace policies. The caution in your...
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    Do I disclose being autistic to my employer?

    Recently, my department's work culture policies have shifted and there are more efforts to be more inclusive and sensitive to neurodivergent people in the workplace. However, these are just written policy and the actual social culture will take time to shift, so I am concerned about...
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    Overbearing parent or am I being too selfish? halp

    Oh, I see. I was wondering what the reaction might be if I whip out a piece of paper in front of my dad lol I do like planning or 'scripting' social situations. I've never thought to write it down because I thought it was weird enough that I went through it in my head. An NT notion that is still...
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    Overbearing parent or am I being too selfish? halp

    Thank you for the offer, I may take you up on that after I have had a think about the replies/advice I have received. I am in a... different family situation. The short of it all is that I am adopted. That extra bit of, 'but we share genetics, we should be more alike' doesn't come into play...
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    Overbearing parent or am I being too selfish? halp

    I see where you're coming from, and I have used the same logic myself for most of my life. That exact thinking is what has led me to this burnout. "I just need to be a little tolerant, temporarily, until I get a break, until something lets up so I can mend." The problem is, it never lets up. My...
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    Overbearing parent or am I being too selfish? halp

    Hmm writing things down helps me a lot. I've just never thought to bring the paper out in a conversation. These discussions tend to derail and it's hard to bring it back to the real issues, but if I had an agenda of sorts, then I could remember what we're actually talking about. Something I've...
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    Overbearing parent or am I being too selfish? halp

    I think your post got cut off at the end there? Feel free to reply and finish your thought if you want. In response to what you have said re narcs (narcissists), i don't think my dad is a narc, clinically, but he is certainly 'egocentric'. He has strong opinions and won't budge even if you...
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    Overbearing parent or am I being too selfish? halp

    I appreciate the advice, I tend to have trouble wording things in a... better way? I tend to be very blunt and straightforward. Your suggestions are helpful. He has expressed his is more worried about me now, and I have said that doesn't help me and only stresses him out more. If I need him, I...
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    Overbearing parent or am I being too selfish? halp

    The only thing I rely on him for at the moment is the place to live, and to borrow the car every now and then for errands. I pay for living expenses on my own. My leave of absence from work is temporary, I am planning to move back in just a few months. This is part of his reason for...
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    Overbearing parent or am I being too selfish? halp

    Here's the heart of the issue: I really need time alone, as in I don't even want to be contacted or asked how I am doing or anything. I only have the energy to text with a few friends, and that's on a very irregular basis (which they are all totally fine with. I can go days without responding...
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    Recovering from burnout - re-entering the realm of socializing

    @paloftoon These are great suggestions, thank you! I will definitely look into these type of things. I am not in the US, I am in Canada, but I'm moving to Mexico soon to be with family, so it's kind of a moot point lol
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