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    If you were honest with yourselves, how many of you hate having this condition?

    At a certain point, feeling bad becomes self-reinforcing. All you can see are bad experiences that reinforce negative perceptions. Sometimes the way to break this cycle is a medication for depression. And if the therapist spends even 2 minutes job searching, its time to walk out, because they...
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    If you were honest with yourselves, how many of you hate having this condition?

    This is a good point. Most people indeed do have miserable lives; NTs do not have super easy lives all the time. Back when I was working--and getting fired from--many temp jobs, people at those jobs would for some reason think that they could tell me all kinds of things about their private...
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    If you were honest with yourselves, how many of you hate having this condition?

    A lot of the time, the people who give me the feedback that I am being impossible, difficult, too much, too picky etc are usually competent, successful, of good intellect, educated, etc. This is why I take their feedback seriously.
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    If you were honest with yourselves, how many of you hate having this condition?

    Your experience in your teen years sounds like mine, but with more friends. As an aspie teen girl, I only had one friend, and she was a fake friend, because she only bothered with me when her "main" friends were unavailable. And she and I never connected at all; it always felt awkward. Years...
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    If you were honest with yourselves, how many of you hate having this condition?

    Its difficult to maintain that perspective though when you are getting negative feedback from others throughout your whole life who are telling you that you are being too difficult, too picky, too much, impossible, etc and their tone of voice is of anger, frustration, irritation, and exasperation.
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    If you were honest with yourselves, how many of you hate having this condition?

    I had the same reaction as you at that thought: nausea, and "is this the best the NTs can do????" I feel very disappointed by the society that they have created, and like you, I do not want to be condoning it or going along with it. I am who and what I am: deep down in the core of my being, I...
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    Most jobs now require social and emotional intelligence

    I am not really sure how anyone puts up with this demoralizing reality in their day to day workplace. When I read articles about the importance of emotional and social intelligence in the workplace, I do not believe they are talking about having genuine empathy for your co-workers in which you...
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    Is being underemployed or struggling to get into a career that pays enough to support oneself, common for people on the autism spectrum?

    For virtually my entire "career" I have been self-employed, but those opportunities melted away and I have not been able to figure out a new opportunity yet, but I do have something in the works right now, so wish me luck! Working for others has never worked out for me because I could not...
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    Most jobs now require social and emotional intelligence

    You've touched on another important point. I am now middle aged, but when I was in my early 30s, I figured out that most "prestigious" corporations that I might have worked at, had I succeeded in become an Engineer, are deeply corrupt, and are not deserving of honest, hard-working, employees who...
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    Most jobs now require social and emotional intelligence

    This is kind of me venting... Remember data entry jobs? Now adays, virtually all data entry jobs require you to also answer the phones. Remember records clerk jobs? Now adays, those jobs are far far fewer in number and very difficult to find or get. Remember warehouse / production jobs? They...
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    Lack of opportunities

    I agree completely; it is very difficult to do anything now adays. I am now of middle age, and it was much easier for me to do adulting things in my early 20s, such as getting and keeping a full time job, renting an apartment, living independently etc. But since then, it seems that opportunities...
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    What does it mean when you are talking to someone, but they cut you off to talk to someone else?

    Scenario #1 has happened to me only a few times in my life. Once it happened when Person C, who was a much older male and who has very low opinions about women, did this while I was speaking. Immediately, while he was speaking to Person B, I turned around and walked out of the room. I had only...
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    ND-ND marriage, anything I have not tried?

    Bold added by me. This is what it sounds like to me: over the course of his life (due to his low emotional/social intelligence), he has had many social failings, and has as a result built up this defensive structure, which is very very thick and very very strong. You and your needs are on the...
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    ND-ND marriage, anything I have not tried?

    You mentioned this is an ND-ND marriage; is that your assessment, or does he also know that he is on the spectrum? This all boils down to whether or not you can break through his incorrect idea that his intelligence and computer-like thinking abilities will always give him the right answer in...
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    What is everyone’s thoughts on self-diagnosis?

    Boldened areas by me. I am self diagnosed as Level 1 autistic and deciding whether to get a formal diagnosis. It has been life-changing to find out that I am ASD; it explained my sensory issues, social difficulties, meltdowns and shutdowns. It also saved my marriage. When both partners realize...
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