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    Haven't had sex with my husband in ten months and I am freaking out

    I totally get that. I'm so sorry that happened. And I'm sure that would make things tough to do as an adult now. My husband claims he wants it. This is why it's so confusing. But I am starting to wonder if the whole sex abuse thing might be true. It makes sense in a lot of ways.
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    Haven't had sex with my husband in ten months and I am freaking out

    I'm sorry to hear that. I can see how that might happen. That's what my husband keeps telling me...that he still loves me...and I don't doubt that one bit...but I need that intimacy...some kind of intimacy. I'm lonely. Does your wife feel lonely at all? If you don't mind answering?
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    Haven't had sex with my husband in ten months and I am freaking out

    I totally agree. It's definitely worth a shot.
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    Haven't had sex with my husband in ten months and I am freaking out

    He won't let me see him masturbate. It's too private, he says. :(
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    Haven't had sex with my husband in ten months and I am freaking out

    These are great suggestions and things for me to think about. I am a writer, so maybe an email would work better for communication. Must think about that some more. Thank you. We have discussed bringing a vibrator into the mix, but he nixed it. I think he feels inadequate if I use a sex toy...
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    Haven't had sex with my husband in ten months and I am freaking out

    Thank you for the suggestion. That is most likely what I will need to do. Thank you. This is very interesting. I'll have to get a copy.
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    Haven't had sex with my husband in ten months and I am freaking out

    @Barymore , thanks for sharing your experience. :) That is good to know. I'll need to stop trying to get him used to things if it just isn't going to happen. A counselor might be the next step to take, looks like.
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    Haven't had sex with my husband in ten months and I am freaking out

    Thank you for sharing that, and for answering my thread, @Suzanne. My husband claims to have great restraint as well. I started sleeping naked as an effort to entice him because he always said he'd totally want sex if I did, but uh...nope. It hasn't happened. As it turns out, it's actually quite...
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    Haven't had sex with my husband in ten months and I am freaking out

    @Bolletje, I know, right? Sex is a normal part of life and of a relationship/marriage. It feels surreal. How could this be shameful? But it appears that that's how he feels. Yeah, it's pretty much a no-go. He'll tell me he understands and it's not a problem, but his actions say the complete...
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    Haven't had sex with my husband in ten months and I am freaking out

    @Alexej, thank you so much.
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    Haven't had sex with my husband in ten months and I am freaking out

    @Bolletje , thanks for the suggestion. That's another issue. I've tried that, and he shamed me for it. I ended up in tears, feeling like a freak. We had a conversation about it and he seems to understand that it's a normal part of sex, but I still get weird looks and he tries to pull my hand...
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    Haven't had sex with my husband in ten months and I am freaking out

    Thanks, @Suzanne . I had a feeling you meant procreation. ;) I wonder if he finds the whole thing repulsive. He says he doesn't, but as I said upthread, he tends to lie about things. I think it's possible he may have been abused. I asked him that, and he says no, but that might not be true...
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    Haven't had sex with my husband in ten months and I am freaking out

    Thank you, @Au Naturel, for your thoughts. It is possible he just isn't interested - although he claims he still is. Although that could be a lie (he has issues with lying, too). I'll mention the DHEA thing - maybe that will help. Wet things...that's interesting because whenever I wash my...
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    Spacing out?

    I've never been diagnosed as being on the spectrum, but I suspect I might be. I am a total space cadet. I'm a writer, so I am always imagining book plots and conversations. Sometimes I fanaticize about things. I am almost always in my own head. I have to work hard to focus on other things or...
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    Haven't had sex with my husband in ten months and I am freaking out

    *waves hello* I'm new here. I wanted to get some advice. My hubby is most likely on the spectrum. He's never been formally diagnosed, but he has all of the symptoms. When we first started dating fourteen years ago, I noticed that something was different about him, but did not know what. I have...
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