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It dawned on me...

I was 25 when it finally dawned on me that my life was going to be what I made it. I stopped believing the elders around me who all had an opinion as to who I was, how I should behave, what I should do, who I should be friends with, what job I should take etc etc, and I realized that if I didn?t make things happen how I wanted it to happen, then I was the one who would miss out.

The scary thing was, if something went wrong, I was now responsible. And trust me, I made some poor decisions!

But I tell you what, I have learned more about myself, about the world, and I have lived more in the last six years than what I did the entire 25 years before that.

And even the poor decisions didn?t kill me. I have lived, and learned, and every day I learn something new about myself and about how I fit in the world.

It turns out I like me, despite what I had been lead to be believe.

So if I could impart any words of wisdom from the short 31 years of my life, it would be this: ?be brave and take charge?.

Choose the sort of person you want to be.
Continually question your beliefs.
Learn your limits, don?t assume them.
Take responsibility for correcting your mistakes, don?t just live with them.
If you don?t like it, change it.
If you have a bad day, choose to make tomorrow better.
If you don?t know, find someone who does and ask.
Be gracious and humble.
Don?t waste life on the petty stuff.
Don't stop asking why.
Learn to listen.

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Gulas
I like to keep a journal to record what I learned in that day, or to record what I learned throughout life. And most of your life lessons were similar to my own life lessons.

And I completely agree with stopping believing (or at least question it) in what I've been told to do by others. How wrongly others measure people worth by money, grades, number of partners, cars, appearance, etc. And make others who don't have these things feel bad and inadequate. The truth is these things means almost nothing, we are much more than labels describe, more than meets the eye, more than the numbers on bank account. The expectations others had on me, and consequently the pressure I put myself in, to perform in a certain way was bad. What matter is I follow my own path, the one which make me fullfilled

The lies we tell ourselves: "I'm fine." "I don't care." "I'll do it tomorrow". "I can't do it". I found out the more I lied to others and myself, the more boring, repetitive and suffocating the day was. Even shame of doing something poorly or hiding my feelings, hiding who I am, made me feel bad. Well no more.

Responsability is freedom, yet scary. It's like your life is a car, and you're finally realise that you are responsible for being on the right path, instead of blaming the obstacles (trees, rocks, parents, unfairness of the world, whatever) for the bumps.

I strive to be the kind of man I want to be, not the kind of man I've been told to be. I want to be independent, wise, free, fulfilled, caring, courageous. Be able to look within myself and love what I see.

Well, I rambled enough about somethings I learned in my 20 years of life. Sometimes I feel old, that I have so much to learn.

Thanks for the kind wise words! They mean a lot.

See ya!
 
C
I strive to be the kind of man I want to be, not the kind of man I've been told to be. I want to be independent, wise, free, fulfilled, caring, courageous. Be able to look within myself and love what I see.
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I think that's the biggest one for me, choosing to be the sort of person I admire.

It's funny you say you feel old sometimes, that's how I feel a lot of the time :)

Thanks for encouraging me Gulas.
 

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