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June 14th

  • Author Author IXxTchxXI
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How does one let go?

Is there a secret ritual that a person has to perform to let go?

Why am I asking myself this? Because I read about it "sometimes the thing that we hold on to the most is the thing we need to let go".

And when I talked to my therapist about it, they told me it was true and I should try it. I was too shy to ask "how" in fear of looking stupid, I just nodded and smiled and said "I can try this!" With the most fake confident tone I am capable of.

(Pathetic, I know)

I've held to so many things for so long and well, I KNOW I can't let go of all of them but I can try letting go from one to one, the problem is HOW

I could easily ask the internet, but I feel like this is something I want to figure out myself (if push comes to shove I will ask Bing about it)

Should I let go of my dreams? Or should I let go of my past?


My dreams are silly, mind you and my past is part of what makes me who I am today, right?

But maybe obsessing over my dreams is what I should let go of? But if I don't obsess over them, how the heck am I going to achieve them?

*groans and looks up, pinching the bridge of my nose with my paw*

- Why must this be so complicated!

*Sighs and continues writing*

I know happiness is something I shouldn't let go of (if I ever find it) friends I shouldn't let go of if they're nice (like Ro)

How does one learn what to let go of things, then? How does one know WHAT to let go of? Maybe by making a list of things that make me upset?

Maybe by mentally searching for things, one by one, by one and see which ones bring me joy or sadness?

Who knows...

I could try starting small, with a simple bad habit (hard when one has so many)

Maybe a bad habit that someone has voiced? But then... Wouldn't I be doing things for someone else and not myself?

Maybe a bad habit that annoys me, maybe I should start there

Let's see...

*I tap my chin with my pen, thinking*

*Turns to my plush doll, laying on my bed*

- What would you do Bruno?... OH!

*Starts writing again*

I know what I can let go of!

Writing journal entries!

Just kidding, I have been wanting to work out for a few weeks now

Maybe letting go of my laziness could be a start?

I don't know, it's late, I'm hungry and I'm overthinking things like I always do.

I feel like this is a problem for tomorrow's Luna to solve...

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AprilR
I also have trouble understanding abstract concepts like this. Logically i know letting go of something is the best decision. But i don't know what to do to achieve it. I can only try to rewire my brain
 
Coxhere
I think that "letting go" is a universal difficult for all of us human beings, regardless if Aspie or NT. I think that we want to control for safety and security reasons. Yet, we all know that we cannot control the things in our physical environment, as much as we might try. What helps me immensely is meditating. I need to check and see the relationship between Aspies and meditation. I don't know of this relationship but I imagine that it's more difficult for Aspies than meditation is for NTs. Regardless, meditation is difficult for many, if not most, of us. Many of us have a difficult time moving into meditative trance because there are so many distractions in the day-to-day world. However, I've found that needing to control and being anxious about who I am and how I wish to be goes away, mysteriously, when meditating. Meditating can take one into Higher Consciousness and the Ego-Self tends to go away for a while. I know that, for me, it gets easier when I practice a daily meditation discipline. (By the way, there's no "accurate" or "proper" way to meditate. It depends upon the individual person's needs. Meditation responds to the individual's needs and wants.) Probably the easiest way to get started in meditation is searching for "guided meditations." By following guided meditations, we can merely follow what we are hearing in the meditation. If we don't like a particular guided meditation, it's our choice to turn off a guided meditation and keep trying other guided meditations till one speaks directly to and is helpful for us. I hope that my response might be helpful to you. I care.
 

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