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Is There Really Anything Wrong With Us?

How is our world more fun? :unsure:


perhaps I got a little carried away there...

I am not belittling aspergers at all, and know not everyone has the same views.

I was speaking from my perspective. a lot of the positive traits of the condition have been really good for me. I can concentrate and obsess about my favourite things until I am really quite good at stuff. So, for me, being able to do this is fun.

I know there are many, many negatives involved too - and I have had my share of these. So, if you feel like its a negative thing, them I'm sorry.

My experience of the vast majority of nt types I have known, leaves me with the distinct impression I am glad I am me!

Perhaps the issue of whether it is a good or bad thing could be the start of a thread to air views. I don't want to upset people with my posts. I am on antidepressants at the moment, so am naturally in a bouncy frame of mind (on the whole!)
 
No problem, Tarragon - you didn't offend me in the slightest. I was honestly curious what you found fun about being as aspie.

Thanks for the reply. :)
 
I can't say if "our" (or mine is more fun for that matter). I haven't lived both NT and Aspie lives. I do know however, that generally speaking, looking at what I do on a day (or just to keep busy) I can't say that it's not fun. Yes, we all have our downs and annoying moments, but NT's have those as well.

And actually looking at a fair share of NT people, for example on my facebook list... their activities, their lives and what they do, doesn't look like a lot of fun to me personally. They have jobs I don't consider fun, they got degrees on courses I don't consider fun and they might even have hobbies I don't even consider fun. And that's coming from someone who tried a lot in terms of hobbies and education. By the time now I kinda know what's fun and what's not for me.

On a related note; a lot of stuff I deem fun, people, assumably NT people, won't really think is interesting either. If I tell someone I had a blast reading 500 pages of neuropsychology on a saturday night, a lot of people will frown and ask me "don't you have a social life?"... well, no... I don't have a big interest in that, and as such starts the discussion of fun and perspective (yes, again, that ugly word... perspective).

If we're talking fun, I think that it's rather important to make the best out of it and not let it depend on a lot of external factors; especially it's factors that in short supply (money, friends/other people)... then you might consider evaluating how to fill in that "fun" slot. It's how I learned to cope with doing stuff just on my own, and at some moments with little to no money. A big thing there however is that you don't set a goal in mind except "I want to do something fun"... if you're starting with big goals in mind, you can kinda guess that at some point you'll have to invest in it. I mean I could say that I want to go shopping as means of fun (and maybe even plan what I want to buy). But if I don't have a lot of cash to blow, I'll find a lot of disappointment.
 
Nothing really 'wrong' with Aspies specifically, but humans in general have issues.
So in regards to Aspies vs NT, I see nothing wrong, but as humans we have issues.
 
Nothing really 'wrong' with Aspies specifically, but humans in general have issues.
So in regards to Aspies vs NT, I see nothing wrong, but as humans we have issues.

Some are more of an issue than others! ;)
 
Since I discovered I'm aspie it has helped me a lot to be able to begin to replan my strategy, isolate my weaknesses and focus on the strengths of the situation. I know my apparent weaknesses are a very poor performance on the social scale which means I've had to accept I'm not going to be accepted so easily, not going to make a good visual impression and possibly even be dismissed as weird. Knowing this I now know it makes sense not to over-try and get myself accepted at face value. Not to stress out any more if I get shunned or under-estimated. Not to assume perceived appearance is as important as people believe.
Strengths are the drive to work harder with more concentration and to adopt more individuality to projects. Also the fact you may be under-estimated can be turned into a strength (which is why I'm a big fan of Lieutenant Columbo).
My philosophy now is to be myself. If I do act weird, so be it. If people don't like me, they can lump me, so to speak. It's the way I am and I now accept myself for being that way. I have no plans to try and act normal because (1) I don't think the mask would totally fool people and (2) I'd just rather be true to myself.
Of course, I value my supposedly N.T. friends although often I suspect they border on the spectrum, even though not aspies. Nearly all my friends are a bit neurotic so I can only assume I act like a magnet or something. What I find odd about my non aspie friends is they learn very differently to me and everything is in groups. If they want to learn a subject they go to classes and seem to need to be taught. Then they learn quite well, so being in a group is the way they learn. I much prefer to not have a teacher and use the internet to access information and approach material from the reverse.
I suppose there is something wrong with me but that has more to do with the occasional depression side, unwillingness sometimes to socialise, the stims and so on.

perhaps I got a little carried away there...

I am not belittling aspergers at all, and know not everyone has the same views.

I was speaking from my perspective. a lot of the positive traits of the condition have been really good for me. I can concentrate and obsess about my favourite things until I am really quite good at stuff. So, for me, being able to do this is fun.

I know there are many, many negatives involved too - and I have had my share of these. So, if you feel like its a negative thing, them I'm sorry.

My experience of the vast majority of nt types I have known, leaves me with the distinct impression I am glad I am me!

Perhaps the issue of whether it is a good or bad thing could be the start of a thread to air views. I don't want to upset people with my posts. I am on antidepressants at the moment, so am naturally in a bouncy frame of mind (on the whole!)
 

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