How to deal with a troublemaking roommate?

[Italianbratxoxo]

my roommate just moved into my “group home” with my nurses and staff. She’s been causing nothing but trouble and I’m being accused for breaking the rule when she’s been doing things that are considered rule breaking in my mind. None of the nurses are on my side anymore. I want the girl to get kicked out.

How do I deal with a roommate like this? I have been trying to follow the rules and she’s influencing me and my staff said to me that I’m bullying her because I said she’s influencing me. I can’t even call my mom and she won’t answer my calls.

I feel so alone and I feel like the world is against me right now. I have no one here on my side. Please someone help me. I want to go homeless than be with my roommate.

 

[Tired]

Can you give some examples of her influencing you and of what rules she and you are breaking?

 

[Aspychata]

Sorry to read that you are getting no support from the group home, and none from your mom. If you feel she is influencing you, you must avoid her at all costs, then you have resolved being influenced. Please just smile and then excuse yourself if she starts hanging in your area. You need to be patient with your mom and keep trying to contact her. Do not let the staff or this person bully you, by disconnecting from the petty games being run on you. Hopefully, you will find support from this forum.

 

[DrBadStrings]

Do you share the same room or just live in the same group home? If the rooms aren't shared then I'd just try to avoid her and keep to yourself and make it clear to them and the staff that your own room is off limits. If you share a room I'd be talking to the staff about switching rooms. Never been in a group home situation, that's gotta be a rough situation to put up with. You have my sympathies.

 

[WhitewaterWoman]

Do you have a support coordinator or social worker who helps you with your services? If so, she should help advocate for you to reach a solution. Call her and ask for help.

If you live in the US, you can reach out to Disability Rights.

Unfortunately, in my experience (20+ years), the rights of people in group homes are not well-respected unless there is an outside advocate.

 

[Italianbratxoxo]

Do you have a support coordinator or social worker who helps you with your services? If so, she should help advocate for you to reach a solution. Call her and ask for help.

If you live in the US, you can reach out to Disability Rights.

Unfortunately, in my experience (20+ years), the rights of people in group homes are not well-respected unless there is an outside advocate.

I have a case manager. I don’t even know her phone number. I don’t know what to do. I’d rather either die or go homeless than be with this girl. She is nuts and I’d rather deal with my abusive dad than deal with her.

 

[Aspychata]

So ask your mother for the caseworker number. Tell your mom, can you apply for a different place? Perhaps decide to go to dad's and apply for different home? l get it, sometimes you swap out abusive places for other LESS abusive places, you make a lot of sense. You gotta pull thru and advocate for yourself. Make a plan, and go thru with it, even if it means going back to your dad's until you can figure out your next move. It's not easy, you may end up crying, but stick to your plan, and speak up for yourself, you CAN DO THIS.

 

[Italianbratxoxo]

I can’t even reach my mom right now. Her phone isn’t working.

 

[WhitewaterWoman]

I can’t even reach my mom right now. Her phone isn’t working.

Your group home staff should have a phone number for your caseworker. Can you ask a staff person?

 

[Italianbratxoxo]

Your group home staff should have a phone number for your caseworker. Can you ask a staff person?

Can you people please stop asking me so many questions? It overwhelms me.

 

[grommet]

my roommate just moved into my “group home” with my nurses and staff. She’s been causing nothing but trouble and I’m being accused for breaking the rule when she’s been doing things that are considered rule breaking in my mind. None of the nurses are on my side anymore. I want the girl to get kicked out.

How do I deal with a roommate like this? I have been trying to follow the rules and she’s influencing me and my staff said to me that I’m bullying her because I said she’s influencing me. I can’t even call my mom and she won’t answer my calls.

I feel so alone and I feel like the world is against me right now. I have no one here on my side. Please someone help me. I want to go homeless than be with my roommate.

I was in the same situation. I lived in a group home and the man in the room across from me was so horrible I found a bench on the side of the road and I was planning to sleep there one night. I was really looking forward to one night away from his shouting, saying disgusting things and slamming his door so loud it shook my whole room. I was frantic and miserable. Homeless was better if I could get away from him.

I wish I knew how to help but I could not think of a solution for myself. It was a long time ago and I am grateful I have my own place where I am very quiet.