Finally got a straight answer

[midlife aspie]

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[grommet]

My best to you. I am sorry I do not have advice I can give. I am not married though I am in a long-term relationship. It is harder than I ever knew it would be. I have learned so much. I have learned that it does take both and one person cannot make up for both. I also know that I have had to change a lot, grow and be better so I could be better to her. I lived my whole life alone and only needed to take care of myself. I did not know what was required to take care of some one else.

The one thing we both seem to be coming back to is that we both want to be together. I think that is separate from our problems. I think that is why we stay together despite the times we have problems. We both still want each other. I think without that we could not last.

I do not know what to hope for you except that you get through feeling the best you can. If I can offer advice, I would say, find your true self as much as you can and as you go through this keep asking yourself what that part of you would do. It's what helps me.

 

[midlife aspie]

There is at least one person openly affectionate to me!

 

[grommet]

She is very cute

 

[midlife aspie]

Thank you. She is the number one lady in my life. My heart melts when she scoots up on her butt and wraps her arms around my ankles! I call her Scooter.

 

[midlife aspie]

18 months. A bear masquerading as an angel, she will only do something if you make her think it is her idea! She lets it be known in no uncertain terms when she is unhappy about something. I'm pretty sure I won't need a shotgun for the boyfriends, she will likely be punishment enough for them!