comunication, Words versus Points.

[Voltaic]

you are telling a joke. you are just storytelling before the funny part comes up, then in a glorious wrapup of all the information, you get to the punchline, and make your point.

hooefully you use the right words, and the point comes out ckearly and effectively. hopefully you make everyone laugh. the joke part is beside the point. but it signifies a clear seperation from the point, and the words used to make that point.

As i try my bewt to get better at comunication, i find that my points are misinterpreted by people i talk to. Rather by my own fault, and or others, they seem to get hung up on the words i use to express my points that they ignore.

I am rather offensive, or talk way to long. if i condence it, i sound crazy because i have all these things i say that no one would belive... because i didn't explain them. The more I try, the more I am starting to think that my problem, may not be just bcsuse of me. rather than a, 'who is right, who is wrong' situation, it seems to be fault in both parties.

i want to express points, for the sheer sake of comunication. They dont get my points though, and asume what i am trying to say. right now, just thinking. I could probubly be better at sumerizing my arguments and points at the end, instead of leaving them ooen ended. although it seems that there is not enough time to tie up all the loose ends that are unspoke, and left to assumption.


...my point... i can't even say. maybe just food for thought, and something to discuss.

 

[the_tortoise]

People may just not see your points, rather than be ignoring them. The words you use may have different meanings for them than the meanings you intended.

Meaning gets lost in translation, even when people are speaking the same language. It doesn't have to be anybody's fault.

 

[Gracey]

I agree with the "not having enough time" part.

I do wonder about the ability to listen. All appears to move so damn fast now, including another person's precious time. Almost as if nobody has the time or the patience to listen any longer.

With texts and emails and forums folk no longer have to listen, they can simply read.

 

[Jane Smith]

Yeah, I am going to agree with Tortoise.

One thing that I've learned when it comes to miscommunication is that it's not anyone's fault. It's just about understanding WHY the miscommunication happened.

If you feel like something was lost in translation, ask.

Here are some examples of questions you could ask them to clear things up:

"I see that I hurt your feelings. This wasn't intended. Are you okay with talking about it? That way I don't hurt your feelings again."

"I feel like what I said was confusing. Would you like me to elaborate?"

"I feel like what i said was lost in translation. Can I re-explain?"

Once a miscommunication happens, not all hope is lost. There is a way to figure it out.

 

[WereBear]

Can you use a tool, like PowerPoint, and thus, see where you went wrong?

It can be a useful way of breaking down different places to see where you went off track. But then, I'm an Aspie: I'd love to look at your PowerPoint!