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Bad luck

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Danny 74

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Does anyone have constant bad luck.and i mean constant. Everyday something goes wrong and it always makes me feel cursed in some.way. if i stood in a group of a 100 people and something fell from the sky. It would hit me on the head etc etc. Im trying to get karma back on side
Sick of having to go.through this charade everyday
 
Sometimes I do, but it's usually related to my state of mind. Everything that can go bad will go bad at times when I'm angry or tired or distracted. When I don't pay attention to things going on around me, that's when it usually happens. Other times, things go well. It's just that the bad stuff stands out more for me, it feels a little personal, but it's probably not.
 
Hmmm. I know at times life can seem that way. I just assumed that "Murphy's Law" didn't discriminate.

"Anything that can go wrong, will go wrong."
 
From my experience, I have 70% more chances of getting more bad luck attacks than people around for some reason o_O. I can almost assure the universe tries its best to attack my mind in different ways: Making my actions fail right at the end. Something must make noise if I ever try to be sneaky. If something bad happens, I take most of the fault because I missed something on its time. My coin has fell from my hand in front to least desireable person (because it doesn't want to happen in front to a trustable person instead), the coin keeps rolling around, and yes it HAS to fall on his foot. . Because I have to be put into shame again. Why do this kind of stuff never happen the other way around? Well, not strictly, it's just that it happens more to me than the rest, and it just makes things socially worse. The cherry on the fu(king cake. Heck, only happens to kids ;)

But still, in the eyes of the world, all the fault is uniquely mine, even though I feel an actual demon could be around, I even hallucinate him. It's like a bully over me until I die or perhaps beyond.

I can attempt to "workaround" the bad luck: I just have to pay attention to every minuscule detail of every activity I do: Prepare a coffee, prepare lunch, arrange my bed, etc. If I prepare a coffe, I have to ensure I'm not going to accidentally touch the cup with an elbow (THAT overlooked), take the spoon correctly, make sure I introduce the spoon correctly in the cup, the coffee can, and the sugar. -> Special care at the third sugar spoon, it's proven to have the highest tendency to failure (the last step, again!). And finally the hot water. much more care for the thermo's water level.
But my memory isn't perfect. 1 thing I miss, the activity increases its chances to fail. I have to memorize and follow a strict "movement" set, and strict conditions all the time.

BUT... NTs don't need to bother consciously, they all do this "automatically" for some reason. Does it mean something is failing on me? yeah if I burn my hands with hot water could still be my fault. "Bad luck is just subjective".
 
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I grew up feeling similar to the OP. Sadly, I believe that with Asperger's, a lot of "bad luck" is caused simply by being slightly "out of step" all the time.

They say "the nail that sticks up gets hammered down". To me, it's a similar sort of thing with Asperger's. You're constantly doing things differently. You're functioning in a way that people do not anticipate. You're functioning in ways that the people who wrote the rules did not anticipate. The universe just seems to have a way of responding to "different" behavior.

Think of Larry David in Curb Your Enthusiasm. The things he does make perfect sense to him, but others don't get it, so he's always in trouble. It's the same sort of principal, lol.
 
I experience this. It feels like being cursed by Murphy's Law. Sometimes I'm just trying to do something simple like make lunch, and somehow I end up dropping or damaging every ingredient. It's like those comedy shows where a character tries to do something and ends up utterly destroying everything.

I worry about it regarding really important things. For example, I bought tickets to Comic Con on my birthday in September to meet Don Rosa, and now I'm worried he'll get sick or injured and be unable to attend, or have to cancel for some other reason. After all the struggles I've had since moving here, meeting Don Rosa on my birthday seems too good to be true. Something could very well come up at the last minute and prevent it from happening. Especially since tickets are non-refundable.

Also, when a company discontinues products, it's usually the ones I like.
 
I have had the experience described by Inator- including constant bad luck all my life caused by memory loss and discoordination- it has led me to actually understand how though behaviour action actually operates from a psychological level- its an anomaly related to an ERP signalling failure in the Anterior cingulate cortex- called ERN- Error-related negativity - Wikipedia

Everytime something goes wrong you lose a your memory for a moment leading to a learning disparity- social sensitivity is caused by the fact that in a competitive work and social environment the primary means relational targetting involves triggering a slight of pain in others with sarcasm and other ways of shocking others- for people with ERN dysfunction it causes memory lapses and therefore long trains of problematic actions.

social sport involves two aspects in this context- the dislodging of vulnerable people in social groups for sport and influence in an effort to impress others. considering the current rate of autistic like conditions i 10% including dyslexia- what we are dealing with is a world problem of financialization, neoliberal rentier economy taking away the ground state of social and community habituation and the engineering of job and consumer scarcity- the end result is social and institutional feudalism.

Having a condition like mine makes life a real life gauntlet to live- also life is trivialised as the condition of social conformity is programmed as a responses the the learning mechanism know as the ERN- that reduction is almost design to destroy people who are different and "out of time" or "not in step or beat". Is it a conspiracy?

Yes Always- in fact it can be considered one of the very sources of conspiracy itself.
 
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