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What happened?

Tony Ramirez

Because of my recent meltdown of that woman purposely ignoring me not helping me cut the branch was her fault not me they could they kick me out even though she promised she wouldn't kick me out

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You asked someone to help you cut a branch?
What kind of help did you need/want?

Metalhead

Tony, you need some professional help to manage the meltdown situations. Of course you are going to keep getting kicked out of groups if that keeps happening.

Tony Ramirez

Take their side.
I am getting professional help.
It's not working.

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Therapy is a process that takes time----
to learn about yourself and how to deal
with your thoughts and feelings.

Tony Ramirez

Half my life it made me worse

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Yes, you've said it's hard for you to learn things.

Tony Ramirez

Because no one teaches me how I have to figure it out on my own

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Matthias

You called a woman a SOB because you were struggling to cut a branch and felt ignored when she didn't offer to help you. That kind of behavior will get you kicked out of most groups. You say it's her fault for ignoring you. That mindset (blaming others instead of accepting responsibility for your actions) is preventing you from getting better.

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@Tony Ramirez
People can't read your mind to
know whether you're understanding or not.
It's necessary to let them know.
It's ok to say "I don't get it. "

Tony Ramirez

She purposely ignored me multiple times seeing me struggling.

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Struggling how?

What is it you need?

Tony Ramirez

I had trouble cutting the branches she saw me looked right at me starting and didn't help but helped someone else then I got pissed

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What kind of trouble?

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Matthias

Some men get angry when they are struggling and others offer to help because they interpret it as others thinking they are inferior or incapable of doing things on their own. That might explain why she saw you struggling and didn't offer to help.