Asperger's & Autism Forum

Zain

Posting this to remind myself as I’m upset about my current status. Your happiness and joy are controlled by things outside of your control.

Zain

I can only strive for contentment and short-term pleasure. Anything more makes me a fool.

Rocco

False information that on 20% number. I guess you have not noticed the many hundreds of thousands of “ugly” men that have marriages or girlfriends. They can been seen in just about any public location. I am not trying to argue with you, but what you are writing is a false narrative from a negative point of view.
I have seen seriously disabled/ disfigured guys in relationships.

Rocco

I think your age and lack of worldly experience are polluting your perception. Go to a flea market and people watch, or a big store like Costco, Walmart, or any massive chain store and look around for a while.
For every stunning beauty you see out there, some dude is tired of her already. The is Hope.

Gerald Wilgus

Hows about a citation for that published in a peer reviewed journal. The Journal of Social Psychology would do.

When we are existentially lonely we will internalize lies. This sounds like one. My recognizing the lie that women only fall for jerks let me be free to grow so that I could provide an alternative, was my thinking as a young adult.

Tony Ramirez

Pure luck. I never had it.

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Steelbookcollector217

well i do believe the research and studies that say throughout human history, more women than men have passed on their genes/DNA

Rocco

@Steelbookcollector217
Is that serious study finding? Because 100% of women that reproduce pass on some dna. Logically the numbers would be higher for women than men. Not all guys reproduce, but it is definitely more than 20% of the male population. More like 20% of men. Do not reproduce.

Zain

It’s in their DNA to desire to reproduce with the tallest and strongest. Do I need to prove that with a study or is it common sense? Those who aren’t standing out biologically are settled for. Their marriage is lacking true, carnal, genuine love.

Zain

And please do not forget I’m primarily focusing on my generation and below.

Aspychata

The instinct to survive maybe present in some women more then other women. Like l truly don't wish to babysit a grown man, yet my neighbor just babysat a man who she claimed was nice, who was pretty much a jerk, and she drove him to AA, etc. Desirable guys usually don't need babysitting.

Rocco

@Zain I worry that you have bought into the lies out there. Propaganda often presents information in a way that favors a specific viewpoint, potentially omitting or distorting facts. Propaganda relies on emotional appeals rather than rational arguments to persuade its audience.

Aspychata

l think the biggest secret is to find someone who totally gets you , and you both have a great connection. Like maybe a spiritual, physical, emotional connection. That's a once in a lifetime lottery ticket. Some never meet that in their lifetime.

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Steelbookcollector217

More women than men have added their DNA to the human gene pool

Tony Ramirez

@Aspychata I thought that finally happened this year when I at my lowest, but she nearly ruined me. I nearly got hit by a car over 15 times and lost every friend I had since she blocked me. I'm doing better now

Gerald Wilgus

@Aspychata, That happened when I met my spouse. I was looking for a woman who honestly liked the outdoors and she was hoping to meet a guy she could do outdoor activities with. Then, she accepted me wholeheartedly and within a couple of weeks we were lovers and in a committed relationship. 47 years ago and still having adventures.

Tony Ramirez

Again pure luck. Last year and I am naming names, so I hope they see this last year Madison Simon hurt me finally getting over her, then Jade from the Bronx this spring nearly made me commit suicide. But now I am doing better thanks to increase Topamax and forgiveness from friends old and new and yes mostly female.

Gerald Wilgus

@Zain , I call shenanigans on this; "It’s in their DNA to desire to reproduce with the tallest and strongest. Do I need to prove that with a study or is it common sense? Those who aren’t standing out biologically are settled for. Their marriage is lacking true, carnal, genuine love."
Humans are rarely that simplistic, plus, I'm a scientist, so I want data. "common sense" = ignorance

Aspychata

Happy that you are feeling better Tony. Maybe hold back yourself emotionally next time you meet someone you have a interest in so you won't feel so emotionally attached if it doesn't work out. Sounds like a very special connection @Gerald Wilgus. But l see you worked on yourself prior, so good you did the hard work first.