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tree
The only way?
Zain
Zain
@tree Yes. I can't think of any other ways.
Tony Ramirez
Tony Ramirez
Women do like us, talk to us, ask for our number do call text talk to us and spend time with us, I am living proof of that.
Rodafina
Rodafina
@Zain,
Is there anything about yourself that you can identify as a positive quality?
Is there anything that you like about yourself?
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Steelbookcollector217
Tony, normally when women do that, they normally do that in a friendship/social manner, not in a romantic/sexual manner though
Tony Ramirez
Tony Ramirez
Really again she told me that directly, I am fine with that, really start making real female friends.
T
thejuice
That's an amusing thought about unattractive men being anti capitalist. I think a lot of people have been taught hopelessness and passivity. So even if career success was a way to increase status, they'd believe 'the man' wouldn't let them anyway. So it's a self fulfilling prophecy.
Tony Ramirez
Tony Ramirez
Being ugly is bad having ASD on top makes it a death sentence of your a man
Zain
Zain
@thejuice True. But it does require external things to get motivated, loving girlfriend, family, some sort of trust in society where you believe your work will be rewarded, etc.
Zain
Zain
@Rodafina This question feels like bait. I will miss out on thing you value and then you will chastise me or something. I ask you the same.
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thejuice
@Zain those connections will definitely help a lot, we are in an epidemic of disconnection, but it's a little bit fatalistic. Is an orphan necessarily doomed to failure? We are at the wheel in life, but it requires us letting go of resentment and learned helplessness. For our own sake and nobody else's.
T
thejuice
Society will reward anyone who learns the skills that people are willing to pay for. Then life's luxuries may stem from that. We might just have to do it the hard way because it won't be handed to us on a plate
Zain
Zain
@thejuice You might be forgetting about nepotism and social skills.
T
thejuice
T
thejuice
@Zain True that will help.
T
thejuice
@Zain nothing we can do about nepotism but we can work on social skills.
Tony Ramirez
Tony Ramirez
@thejuice to be honest, no one has said I was ugly.
Rodafina
Rodafina
@Zain
I had no intention to bait you or chastise you. I was genuinely curious where you see your own worth (as defined by your own values, not mine).

I feel compassion toward you because sometimes it seems like you are really hard on yourself and have difficulty seeing your own value.
Rodafina
Rodafina
I ask you the same.
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Some of my positive qualities include being introspective, resilient, persistent, and hopeful.

I like that I am observant, curious, and easily inspired. I also like that I am loyal to those I love and put in a great effort to maintain relationships with those people.
Zain
Zain
@Rodafina I have no value yet. As a guy, I need to build myself up and become worthy of having a family.
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