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Tony Ramirez

Tony Ramirez

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Single RSD Aspie Rejected Loser 48 From Brooklyn, NY
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  • Tony Ramirez
    I finally understand what a platonic friendship is. Not what those dumb women or a standard Google search gives you that makes it out to be which is almost borderline romantic. Just a standard mutual friendship which I have with my female friend.
    jsilver256
    jsilver256
    Yes. You will experience a deeper friendship with the men in your church, so I encourage you to lean into that. The good news is that it is part of the Christian mandate that these same men help and support you. There is no worry about keeping up appropriate appearances.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I have and I am doing that. Thanks. I am thankful to have friends of both genders whether we hang out solo in groups it doesn't matter.
    jsilver256
    jsilver256
    You may not feel this all the time, but you are an inspiration, Tony. I have worked with literal billionaires and they do not show the same kind of open attitude as you do.
    Tony Ramirez
    I now can't sleep thinking how girls treated me 28 years ago by ignoring me in college, walking away, talking to others and giving me dirty looks.
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    Girls can be mean. I had a young girl stick her tongue out at me when l was very young, and l still remember it. I think we are very sensitive. We have to kinda get tougher.
    T
    thejuice
    I remember a girl at a party came and said hi, i tried to talk but she just gave me a cringe then walked away lol. I left the party and played computer games instead 😂
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Don't start on the crap on the four girls asking me where the bathroom was at a Christmas party. This happened in my early 20s when I left the first church and backslided because of this. It is way back at the start of my post history.
    Tony Ramirez
    I wish I would have listened to the right advice that when a woman approaches you for a conversation she is only being nice. Not pursuing anything romantic, platonic or otherwise.
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    thejuice
    When I go to cafe/ bar I'm trying to push past comfort zone and sit on the high stools near the bar and smile and nod at people. Instead of going to the corner with my phone or book. I'm also on the till at charity shop. Nerve wracking!
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    That's great. I try to smile but when I am not happy it's harder and I don't most of the time.
    T
    thejuice
    Yes I try to smile even though my brain is as flat as a pancake..
    Tony Ramirez
    Slowly telling everyone I trust I am autistic has been great as they all been saying that we love you, support you, welcome you, are not mad at you and won't leave you.
    Hazel_1914
    Hazel_1914
    Tony! This is a sign of healthy experimentation with emotional boundaries and I think you are going to keep on making progress.

    You're doing great. Congratulations! I bet it feels pretty good.
    Tony Ramirez
    I'm off Tiktok what a cesspool. But I can't get off Instagram because I follow my church and yoga studio for necessity updates but it's still a rabbit hole of dispare otherwise.
    Tony Ramirez
    Why do I always attract men who want to work out or sit next to me when clearly, I am so much into women? This is even in places where there supposed to be more female dominate. It really bothers me mentally.
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    jsilver256
    jsilver256
    I don't know, but it would seem an important piece of information for yourself if you asked them why they find you attractive?
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    That's bothersome. I have attracted the same sex, but it's just not me, so l don't take it personally.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    That is why finally having a female friend it's been so complicated. I been making so many mistakes around her. Any one else would have left me by now as a friend but she is so kind and forgiving that she is still my friend,
    Tony Ramirez
    I really do have a female friend who cares for me greatly. It was my black and white thinking that nearly ruined it. But she is so kind and understanding.
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    That is great. When another treats you with respect and grace, that is important. Consider that her treatment of you is accepting you. So, in the future, perhaps before you go into that black and white rabbit hole, you can think of how to handle things differently. You are learning discipline and maturing emotionally.
    Tony Ramirez
    I had so many solo coffee hangs with a guy I lost count. I give up I will ever have one with a girl. No method I tried ever worked. Even when I did not even try.
    Tony Ramirez
    I'm feeling better. Talking to my therapist helped. Messaging my friends helped. Going back to listening to good music and watching funny shows is getting me back enjoying instead of watching mostly AI drivin crap on that deleted app Tikrot.
    Tony Ramirez
    I am starting to not trust people again. I been hurt and betrayed too many times recently.
    T
    thejuice
    Someone ratted again?
    Rodafina
    Rodafina
    It makes sense to not trust certain individuals based on your experience with them, but that doesn't need to mean all people are untrustworthy. Don't forget about your friends that responded to your text messages and made you feel better recently.
    Tony Ramirez
    I'm falling back into old bad habits and I don't even care anymore.
    Hazel_1914
    Hazel_1914
    Sounds like depression? Take today and try to do something different with it
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    My sleep is improving and now I know why.
    Tony Ramirez
    There really no such thing as 100/1 odds or 1 in a million of you think about it and have more confidence in yourself.
    Tony Ramirez
    It might rain on Saturday so my plans to hang out with my first female at the church park event I know is going to be ruined. I just know someone is going to happen Easter weekend next week to ruin it too. I just can't be happy.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    It wants to rain when I have important outdoor plans like it's out to get me.
    Hazel_1914
    Hazel_1914
    Going out for rainy days is a good excuse to go to bookshops, coffee house, or libraries.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    It's postponed too next week. Maybe she can hang out then?
    Tony Ramirez
    I had so many one in a million things happen in my life recently I don't think I should believe that nonsense anymore.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    First a woman came up to me and my friend in a coffee shop. Read my post history. We are friends. First female friend ever in my life. Never in a million years thought it would happen.
    Lost over 80 pounds. Doing yoga. Again. Never in a million years. Socializing. Have many friends. Never in a million years I would think when I was 18.
    T
    thejuice
    Wow, you must be projecting a great aura!
    Judge
    Judge
    Perhaps you realize now that when it comes to life, your math may be bit off. Strange- and wonderful things can and do happen to people. It's just that more often than not, you just never know when they do.
    Tony Ramirez
    I found out I am not the only neurodiverse person in my church. There are two other women in my life groups one with ADHD and another with the same autism as me but women show it different.
    Hazel_1914
    Hazel_1914
    For women it's often difficult to get diagnosed as the presentation of autism/ADHD is different. Sounds like you are meeting more people, which is good.
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