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Tony Ramirez

Tony Ramirez

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Single RSD Aspie Misanthrope 47 From Brooklyn, NY
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  • Tony Ramirez
    Why are there no events Friday or Saturday evening for me? Those nights are so boring for me.
    Rodafina
    Rodafina
    Room for trying something totally new, perhaps?
    Tony Ramirez
    I though third time was a charm. That woman I been talking to was at the Wednesday dinner this evening. At the end I took a elevator and walked her outside to say goodnight. I still chickened out by not exchanging numbers.
    Rodafina
    Rodafina
    What if you forget about getting her number and just enjoy her company so you are not stressing about it?

    Then you could relax and let things happen naturally.

    There is no rule stating you must
    1. Speak to girl.
    2. Exchange numbers.
    3. Coffee date.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    She said she was single so now I know that. But you are right. I enjoy her company. I do get overwhelmed and stressed thinking of those three rules.
    Tony Ramirez
    Once again after church I talked to a woman I meet last week. Again I had an opportunity to ask to exchange numbers during the end of our conversation as she seem interesting in talking to me more, but I blew it by saying nothing, chickened out yet again.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    It just seems like a perfect opportunity missed. I did Google "too afraid to ask a girl her number" and it's quite common, not a ASD thing either.
    tree
    tree
    Sounds like you're close to the time when asking for a number
    will be a thing you can do. When it's comfortable enough for
    you, you'll do it.
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    I keep on telling you to think like a cat. My little furballs are never shy about asking for what they want.
    Tony Ramirez
    Except for spotting two woman at the park, every woman had a man attracted to them.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I know that. I have to believe that.
    AdamG
    AdamG
    Are you going to the park for the sole purpose of meeting women? Are you not going to also enjoy the park?
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    A little bit of both. But I go just about anywhere to meet woman. It's a part of me. I know. I can't help it.
    Tony Ramirez
    My complaints journal is been getting less complaints this past two weeks. Been getting more neutral and positive things.
    AdamG
    AdamG
    You are awesome. I have seen you grow so much in just a few weeks. :)
    Tony Ramirez
    Although I am trying to get better the sight of face masks still tick me off and I sometimes lose my temper but less than before.
    Rodafina
    Rodafina
    It’s good to notice progress and think about what is helping.
    Tony Ramirez
    If a younger version of myself can see me now he will be shocked that I can socialize by joining groups, going to yoga and approaching women.
    Tony Ramirez
    You know what, my life is not that bad. I have no debt. A roof over my head. I am healthy. I got a lot of positive things and positive people in my life from my family they don't sometimes show it (they still love me) but my friends, therapists, and yoga instructors.
    Tony Ramirez
    I was bummed my therapist postponed our session until Friday, but I did tell her briefly that I approached and talked to a woman for a long time on Sunday. She was proud and we will talk in more detail on Friday.
    Tony Ramirez
    It's true most of the time woman don't come up to you for a conversation you have to come up to them no matter how difficult it is.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I am also finding out that doing it is not as impossible as it seems.
    AdamG
    AdamG
    How I ended up meeting my partner was in a class we both took. I tried talking to her every week for 7 weeks until I did. It was scary, heck yes. But I'm so glad I did.
    S
    Steelbookcollector217
    Adam, you said you didn't meet your wife until your 40s right? i assume you had girlfriends in your 20s
    Tony Ramirez
    Just now a woman who I thought was stuck up to me in yoga class today politely said bye Tony after class. She's been too a few of my classes. I judge woman too easily.
    M
    Mary Terry
    I think you do judge women too harshly but you're making progress, Tony. Keep on being friendly, be open to everyone, try to start up a little conversation with people you encounter and remember that every interaction you have with other people is a step forward. It takes a lot of practice.
    AdamG
    AdamG
    Women may often be shy to start conversations. "Stuck up" might just be "introverted". I'm glad you started thinking about this.
    AdamG
    AdamG
    speaking of which, I've been called "Snobby" or "Stuck Up" so many times. But I'm not. I'm afraid to talk, and in conversations, I don't know what to say.
    Tony Ramirez
    Approached another woman I don't know at the church lunch today. We had a long conversation. Only big regret was I did not exchange numbers. I hope I see her again. If I see her I will talk to her.
    AdamG
    AdamG
    That is wonderful news. You have really made some progress :) And, now you can look forward to seeing her again to get her number too.
    Tony Ramirez
    Though my week was going to be good but started out real bad. Hurt my foot. Tripped over a sheet. In pain. Ruined my plans. Might not be able to do yoga or the gym for a few days.
    Tony Ramirez
    I actually talked to a attractive woman after yoga class. She did not scream, run away or was rude to me. She was friendly back. Yes my hands were shaking and I was nervous but I did it.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I just wish it gets easier each time.
    MildredHubble
    MildredHubble
    It will! I believe it takes 27 attempts at something to become comfortable and confident with it, that's the theory anyway! Why not have a little chat with her every time you see her? If she seems like she has to rush off don't take it personally. Just be like if she wants to talk great if she doesn't, ah no big deal. Like the guy in the movie Office Space! Worth a watch :-)
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    Now you need to learn the signals of interest in you from the women you are approaching.
    Tony Ramirez
    Had another sleepless night last night. I was so tired doing yoga. I did therapy by phone. I skipped the gym as I did it four days this week. I was able to take a nap. Why can't I sleep at night like I use to this week.?
    AdamG
    AdamG
    I don't think skipping 1 day at the gym is a big deal. It is sometimes recommended to take days off to rest the body - let the muscles heal. Sorry about sleeping difficulties too, I get that one big time.
    Tony Ramirez
    Slept great last night. Of course I took my Seroquel again last night. I stupidity stopped talking it this week as an experiment to try to lose more weight but it messed with my anxiety and sleep. I am back on it at night again.
    MildredHubble
    MildredHubble
    I take that, or at least a bargain basement generic, NHS preferred version. It's definitely not a good idea to miss a dose. I get quite sick, can't sleep at all and my skin itches if I don't take mine. If you are worried about weight gain it may be a good idea to talk to your doctor. I think in the US doctors are more willing to prescribe appetite suppressants. So may be worth a try :)
    AdamG
    AdamG
    Is there something you could take which doesn't prompt weight gain? If you haven't talked to your doctor about it, it may be worth it.
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