I’m sorry this makes you sad. I hate going to social events. When I must, I hope to be ignored. I guess we are just different. Still, I see it is upsetting to you and that’s understandable.
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Rodafina
Tony Ramirez
Thanks. I actually want to socialize more. I just don't know how to keep the conversation going is the problem.
Rodafina
Is there a theme or purpose to the park events? Like is it a church thing?
Tony Ramirez
Just to eat food and meet new people I guess. The difference is church events people there know me so they socialize with me.
Rodafina
I was wondering if a social group that had more of a specific purpose might be easier to engage in conversations. I don’t really know your array of interests, but for example a walking group where some conversations can automatically be about local trails and footwear and walking related things…
Rodafina
…Or a group for people who want to learn to cook or even a book club. Something where the conversation is slightly more structured and the group is more focused. Just an idea, I’m not sure what the opportunities are in your area
Tony Ramirez
There is crap in my area except park hangs where I am ignored. The only thing nearby is yoga and most of the time it's only the teachers who socialize with me. I tried joining a group there but only I showed up. That is why I go to Park slope for church.
Rodafina
I understand now. That sucks.
Forest Cat
About keeping the conversation going, I have learned that asking people questions about themselves makes them talk. People often like to talk about themselves. So it's a good way to keep a conversation going, just asking friendly questions. But it takes some practice.
Tony Ramirez
But what about when you are interrupted? Unless I am alone with that person it seems in a crowd of people every stinking time I am interrupted while the other annoying person then engaged in the conversation, and I am sitting by myself.