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Callistemon
Gerontius
The collapse of your IRL support system is always going to make you feel miserable. That's what has been happening here at college, etc. On here, there's an understanding that everyone's looking for help. You are OK, and folks are here waiting.
Gerontius
What an actually good point though, abt. reality show. Because I was thinking sitcom. Your friends are at that age where they are like the cast of Friends or The Office. Ditch them; sounds like your show could stand better casting!
Gerontius
Whoever invented "clout" deserves a clout all right, up side of his head.
Gerontius
I'd say you can usually find neurodivergent people all over, but I don't like seeking out a neurodivergent scene. Seek out friendly people & then it won't matter what's between their ears. Sometimes autistic social spheres are pretty grim. Ask me. War stories.
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Luca
I’m saying that based on the fact that I essentially get along with everyone on the forums. I wonder if it’d be the same if I encountered autistic people irl. At one point I had a bunch of autistic friends, but our interests were too dissimilar so the friendships died out.
But I seem to really struggle with the non-autistic 25 to 30something social scene
But I seem to really struggle with the non-autistic 25 to 30something social scene
Gerontius
That's why I don't meet up with autistic folks in real life except by accident through shared special interests.
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Luca
I’m not bashing NTs btw… I’m actually somewhat envious of their social abilities. I just don’t fit in. I can get along with many types of people but I have the biggest challenges with my own peer age group, people in their mid 20s to early 30s. They’re sometimes not so nice but I wonder how much of it is my fault
Callistemon
It's good to have older friends! Especially if your peers are still catching up in maturity.
Had a wonderful friend 38 years older than me who was super role model in many ways as well, who died last year aged 88. Wonderful Alice. Even made us laugh at her funeral, in-between crying. http://sue.coulstock.id.au/requiem-for-a-friend/
Had a wonderful friend 38 years older than me who was super role model in many ways as well, who died last year aged 88. Wonderful Alice. Even made us laugh at her funeral, in-between crying. http://sue.coulstock.id.au/requiem-for-a-friend/
Callistemon
The link has lots about her life and why she was so wonderful. She knew how to be herself and to encourage others to be themselves...and so much more... and I scanned the poetry she chose for her funeral...
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Luca
Thank you for sharing Alice’s story!! That was so beautiful and made me cry.
You are so lucky to have had her as a friend <3 I think I would’ve loved Alice and Rob!
All of my closest friends irl are older than me. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that!
Most of my forum friends are older too
I just sometimes wish I could have irl friends who are peers too.
You are so lucky to have had her as a friend <3 I think I would’ve loved Alice and Rob!
All of my closest friends irl are older than me. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that!
Most of my forum friends are older too
I just sometimes wish I could have irl friends who are peers too.
Callistemon
Give it a little time, @crewlucaa; it's a bit of a needles/haystack thing. BTW, I first met Alice pre-Brett when I started the Albany Philosophy Society because I was so unbelievably sick of not being able to have interesting conversations outside of work on a regular basis, and then found some more needles in the haystack who felt similarly.
Callistemon
One was called Alice! Through her I met lots of other lovely people, both older, younger and about the same age. For example! I was never into the mainstream thing of pubbing and clubbing so I met people at arts places, Scottish Highland dancing, Pilates, choir, etc, and through work. Some even about my age!
Through her I met lots of other lovely people, both older, younger and about the same age. For example! I was never into the mainstream thing of pubbing and clubbing so I met people at arts places, Scottish Highland dancing, Pilates, choir, etc, and through work. Some even about my age! 
Tom
You absolutely aren't that way here. I ended up here because I was usually ending up annoying on NT forums. IRL issues are probably standard ASD/NT interface glitches. It's not insurmountable.
Callistemon
Can you quantify how you were annoying, @Tom? I don't find you that way here at all.
I guess some people found me annoying on general (not specifically ND) forums because I think there can be alternative opinions, but not alternative facts - I'm not going to go along with ridiculous discredited stuff people pick up on social media, that I know isn't factual because I've formally studied the matter.
I guess some people found me annoying on general (not specifically ND) forums because I think there can be alternative opinions, but not alternative facts - I'm not going to go along with ridiculous discredited stuff people pick up on social media, that I know isn't factual because I've formally studied the matter.