When you are with your friend do you find acting stressful do you feel more stressed by it when you are alone
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Streetwise
AprilR
No i don't find it stressful when i am with her. She is not judgmental either, it just makes me feel lonely that i can't share everything with her. But isn't it normal?( To not completely be yourself with anyone)
Aspychata
Think its important to be different. Thats why YOU are a neat friend.
Aspychata
We all need a few secrets. It's okay. There are no *secret police* showing up!!
All-Rounder
I dont think is healthy for either party, depending on the level of involvement and values, for it to be ongoing for a long time. Would it hurt them if they knew? How would you feel if they did that to you? How do you feel about acting instead of being yourself to keep them around? Do you actually have anything in common with them?
All-Rounder
Sometimes we are pushed or so it happens that people around us don't correspond to our personalities and thinking. I encourage you to look for things in common with the people close to you and for people you can open up to and share common grounds with. Bonds cannot form if you cannot be genuine and you are left with feelings of emptiness.
AprilR
Thank you for your response. We have been friends about 15 years, she is my only friend. Maybe in the past we had more in common, and we changed over the years idk.
We have things in common, it's just that sometimes something happens and i notice how we are not as similar as i thought we once was.
Maybe i am just overthinking this.
Doesn't everyone act around everyone?
We have things in common, it's just that sometimes something happens and i notice how we are not as similar as i thought we once was.
Maybe i am just overthinking this.
Doesn't everyone act around everyone?
All-Rounder
Not everyone as far as I can tell. I quite hate to act and can't keep it up for long if it's someone I care about.
People indeed change overtime, some things change in better, others in worse as far as shared things go.
People indeed change overtime, some things change in better, others in worse as far as shared things go.
All-Rounder
It is possible to still make it worthwhile despite having little in common, to continue to enjoy the friendship, and possibly find new common things by rediscovering each other. You have spent a large amount of your important years together and built trust. You can renew the bond by doing something fun together [fun for both, or for one at a time] .