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Recent content by ZaphodsCloset

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    Is this love?

    Is any of this Limerence - Wikipedia relevant?
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    How do you deal with those who are vocal about petty jealousies

    Keeping mum is you being classy. They're breaking a social rule by mindlessly running their mouths about their insecurities in a way that doesn't take responsibility the way you do. I'd like to try saying "you know I really don't care to hear that" or something assertive. But as it is, I just...
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    more questions and clarification

    In the future ...it might be worth timing what information you share. Later in life, you'll meet men who have complete faith and confidence in you. But for now, you're with this guy so you have to work within his limitations, and it sounds like you have the patience for the times he refuses to...
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    How do you deal with those who are vocal about petty jealousies

    Would you like a non-Aspie experience and view on this?
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    Is this love?

    Aww, sweetie. (Is it ok to call you that?) What you wrote was beautiful. I don't have any insights, but just wanted to tell you I read the whole thing and found your writing refreshingly *aware* and nuanced. Nothing cringe-worthy or flood-of-teenage-angst (at least not in a negative way) about...
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    How do you feel about mobiles (vs. landlines & e-mail) ?

    Ten minutes walk in one direction is a pretty low cost for him, and a pretty huge drain on energy and pain-management-reserves for me. So if a bus gets re-routed because of protests or construction (both of these happen a lot in the area we'd generally meet), it's better if I can get out and...
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    if your clothing, haircut and smell were impacting your dating life ...

    Oh, you're right on Zurb. I worried about that as I wrote it. It's to the point where the smell restricts where I can meet him. So in that sense, I don't know how to get around "Project Reduced Odor" if we're to continue in-person friendship. Honestly I wonder why he values *my* friendship at...
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    if your clothing, haircut and smell were impacting your dating life ...

    Thanks, all. AspieFriend smells unpleasant about 80% of the time. Pretty sure he showers every day, so it's probably his clothing especially outerwear, and he walks a lot so he he could put on a clean shirt under a not-so-clean jacket and by the time he arrives, smell pretty gamey. My (male...
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    ask culture vs. guess culture

    Do you relate to this, at all? Ask Culture vs. Guess Culture | Ask MetaFilter "In some families, you grow up with the expectation that it's OK to ask for anything at all, but you gotta realize you might get no for an answer. This is Ask Culture. In Guess Culture, you avoid putting a request...
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    How do you feel about mobiles (vs. landlines & e-mail) ?

    Not what I expected to hear, but this is brilliant. I tend to be protective of BF's time, especially from originally-my-friends' impact. (To the point where there are people I haven't introduced bc I know they'd make requests he'd have a hard time declining, bc he wants to be nice to my...
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    How do you feel about mobiles (vs. landlines & e-mail) ?

    @penguin respect yes. Interact-with with ease, not so much. @zurb "Make plans and be true" is this guy's thinking; he doesn't comprehend the stress caused to the other party with unforeseen, unavoidable events necessitate a change in plans and s/he knows that this guy is going to be just...
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    if your clothing, haircut and smell were impacting your dating life ...

    ... would you want to know? And if so, how would you want it broken to you? Let's say you'd had reasonable success in your dating life, maybe better than some NTs. But that now you'd been single for a while. If friends had the impression you could improve your chances by getting haircuts...
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    How do you feel about mobiles (vs. landlines & e-mail) ?

    Asking because an aspie friend has a thousand excuses not to get a simple mobile and pre-paid SIM. When pushed, he says maybe he'll get one during ___ sale or after ____. Then he doesn't. Money isn't an issue (except for him being generally cheap), but even if it were, it doesn't cost anything...
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    how to help AspieFriend get a girlfriend?

    That's where I feel like the pocket protector isn't such a bad thing. If the hair, clothing, hygiene are improved and stims are reduced ...there's still going to be plenty of visible weirdness. The pocket protector could be updated; I could 3D-print him one. Oh man, that's cringe-intensive! So...
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    best USB 3.0 flash drive? for podcast listening in car

    What do you think is the best flash drive for mp3 playback? Needs to be Linux (me) and OS (him) compatible. BF has a really long commute, so I'm DLing various podcasts that might amuse him. His car stereo has a USB port and should be able to play from a flash drive.
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