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Recent content by v4169sgr

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    "Autistic" or "Person with Autism"?

    @Levitator Thanks for the two replies. In my experience cultural change happens through elevated conversations, and through practice of principles. By not defining myself through a particular group - though I am reaching out to the group and can connect to the group - I am demonstrating that I...
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    Finding it harder to move or speak when I'm upset

    Me too if whatever happened was really bad.
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    "Autistic" or "Person with Autism"?

    Understood. Having friends who understand is not only nice, I think it is essential. I think we can return the favour too :cool: I think it's possible to 'identify inclusively', which for me means validating and treasuring all the characteristics that make me and you unique special and...
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    "Autistic" or "Person with Autism"?

    I don't think I did - I'd be happy to read it if you would like to re-post - or, perhaps, DM if you don't feel comfortable.
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    "Autistic" or "Person with Autism"?

    Agreed. One aspect that is often missed by cultural anthropologists and historians is that humanity's culture as a whole is undergoing evolution ... from small groups through large groups towards a planetary identity. In this day and age we are collectively and individually challenged to shift...
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    Finding it harder to move or speak when I'm upset

    Thank you. I am learning a lot though interacting on these boards :cool: This is a key question for me. Why do I "run away" from emotionally challenging situations? It's good to put my experience into perspective: it's not just me, and might well be something to do with my ASD. For me...
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    "Autistic" or "Person with Autism"?

    Wonderful seeing all the new replies rolling in ... appreciate the perspectives, and the diversity is beautiful :hearteyes: As with Neri, I've never in my life felt the need to "fit in", even though growing up (during times when ASD was not understood at all) I was definitely one of a kind and...
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    Hello

    Welcome - think of it like this: we get to see the Emperor's New Clothes for what they are ...
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    I can’t decide if I want to be formally diagnosed or not

    Just a personal perspective that may or may not help ... As others have mentioned, a formal diagnosis (depending on your circumstances) may act as a gateway to more appropriate support / workplace accommodations - even if not now, then later in your working life. If you are at all worried...
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    Intro

    Welcome, and thank you for sharing. I can relate to your comment about 'autism flying up to the surface and refusing to be ignored'. Whenever I feel like this these days I remind myself that since my diagnosis nothing about myself has really changed and I am still the same person I was before...
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    "Autistic" or "Person with Autism"?

    Thanks Fino - appreciate the humour. I think identification with and connection with are different things. I have no trouble with feeling connected with ... more or less anything. :)
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    "Autistic" or "Person with Autism"?

    Thanks again for the replies. For me, the issue isn't about how others may refer to me. I don't attach so much importance to that. It's more about with which group I wish to identify. As I don't wish to 'belong' to any group smaller than the sum total of humanity, I refer myself as a 'world...
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    "Autistic" or "Person with Autism"?

    I completely agree with you, hence the reason for this thread. For me, categories are not just pointless. They can be directly harmful too. Depending on people's attitudes, they can drive wedges between people. I prefer to avoid doing that. Plus I think it is always nice to try to find things...
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    "Autistic" or "Person with Autism"?

    Thanks a lot for the interesting and stimulating replies, everyone! Looking back I am not sure I was clear enough. I am not referring to the terms one may use to describe ones self. Indeed, I am happy to describe myself as autistic - I wander around with an enamel badge saying "I'm autistic...
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    "Autistic" or "Person with Autism"?

    Thank you. I did as you suggested, and WOW, never thought I'd be stepping into a minefield :astonished: Found this really excellent resource where, though the author does eventually come off the fence, does make some interesting and important points. Having said all of that, I agree with you...
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